You’re lucky then, I am so emotional and sensitive about everything- I’m even crying my heart out right now. I was just cyber bullied not 5 minutes ago. I wish I were like you…
Are you a male or female. Because I heard that boys tend to spend their whole lives toughening up so they don’t cry. I remember that there is a song about it that boys are softer when they are young and then taught to ignore pain. They song goes
When I was a boy
My mom and I we always talked
And I picked flowers everywhere that I walked
And when I was a kid I would always cry
Now even when I’m alone I seldom do
But I am not forgetting I was once a feeling human too
And you were just like me
And I was just like you.
I am a woman but I know exactly how you feel. I haven’t cried since I was small. I feel like I can’t show weakness in front of anyone. Like I can’t ask for help. When I gave birth to my son I didn’t cry once even though I felt I would die from the pain.
I’m sorry I didn’t mean to be presumptuous I don’t know exactly how you feel but I have compassion for how you feel. I don’t want to seem like an insufferable know it all I just want to connect with someone
Wordless kinda nails it here – men are trained not to cry for fear of appearing weak … it took over 3 months for me to finally cry after my mom died (unlike many here, I loved my mom and had a great relationship with her) … haven’t really cried since that I can recall … that was about a decade ago.
I think we need to recondition ourselves to be freer with our emotions … there’s nothing wrong with crying
I’m so sorry you lost your mom that is so sad. I worry about that all the time with my mom. She is depressive and I caught her when I was five trying to kill herself. Ever since then I worry that I’ll wake up and she won’t be there anymore.
Thanks – mom died in her sleep peacefully but unexpectedly – relatively young – mid 60s. i miss her dry, sharp and almost wicked humor and ultra subtle sarcasm that would leave the keenest ear guessing
she was terribly afraid of a slow lingering death so she go what she wanted – just much sooner :/
I Feel crying is a good thing it is a way of realising emotions that are bottled up inside.
For me my experience was 17 years ago after having my daughter I had postal depression and cried all the time day and night every day and night. Then I tok a overdose my one and only attempt at suicide. Then after that I shut down not able to cry even not even at deaths of thsts loved ones. That was 14 years of never ever crying then 3 years ago something happened that made me cry. Not sure why this was different but it was. Even though crying can feel awful and sad I Feel more content that I can cry again.
I don’t know what the answer is for you but feeling numb is a normal part of depression so don’t feel alone and maybe just maybe that one thing that will realse the tears will happen
I hope my mom makes it to her 60’s. It’s always the good ones that seem to die young. I think that’s because they give all their love away and don’t save any for themselves.
You know it’s terrible my son was watching a preschool program the other day and the song went;
You gotta stop crying you gotta keep trying.
And I’m like so that’s how they are indoctrinating the youth. I know the song was meant to be helpful to be hopeful in bad situations but I feel its just making little kids feel bad for crying.
My husband was bought up that it was a failure to cry or show your emotions and is now hard on the outside. I think apart of me felt that he toughts my emotions was a failure so I kept it all in. It was not until at couples counselling I found out one of the reasons he feel in love with me was that I was so in connect with my emotions. Then on the other hand a grew up seeing my mum cry ALL the time on a daily bases and I felt her sorrow consumed me.
So I think there has to be a balance somewhere I hope my children find it
You sound a lot like me Jules. Except for the crying I tell my husband all the time how I’m feeling even though I don’t show anyone else and he loves me for it. I hope my son too can find a balance between feeling and non-feeling. I guess when I met my husband he was the only one who could get inside my head you know like he would know what I was feeling just from changing my breathing.
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You’re lucky then, I am so emotional and sensitive about everything- I’m even crying my heart out right now. I was just cyber bullied not 5 minutes ago. I wish I were like you…
Are you a male or female. Because I heard that boys tend to spend their whole lives toughening up so they don’t cry. I remember that there is a song about it that boys are softer when they are young and then taught to ignore pain. They song goes
When I was a boy
My mom and I we always talked
And I picked flowers everywhere that I walked
And when I was a kid I would always cry
Now even when I’m alone I seldom do
But I am not forgetting I was once a feeling human too
And you were just like me
And I was just like you.
Excuse me I forgot a line in the last verse
And I have lost some kindness
But I’m a feeling human too
And you were just like me
And I was just like you.
Should be the last verse but I messed it up ;P
I am a male and not I don’t feel lucky, I can’t release the tension no matter how bad it gets
I am a woman but I know exactly how you feel. I haven’t cried since I was small. I feel like I can’t show weakness in front of anyone. Like I can’t ask for help. When I gave birth to my son I didn’t cry once even though I felt I would die from the pain.
I’m sorry I didn’t mean to be presumptuous I don’t know exactly how you feel but I have compassion for how you feel. I don’t want to seem like an insufferable know it all I just want to connect with someone
I thought it was nice that you shared your experience didn’t seem presumptuous at all
Wordless kinda nails it here – men are trained not to cry for fear of appearing weak … it took over 3 months for me to finally cry after my mom died (unlike many here, I loved my mom and had a great relationship with her) … haven’t really cried since that I can recall … that was about a decade ago.
I think we need to recondition ourselves to be freer with our emotions … there’s nothing wrong with crying
dry dawg
I’m so sorry you lost your mom that is so sad. I worry about that all the time with my mom. She is depressive and I caught her when I was five trying to kill herself. Ever since then I worry that I’ll wake up and she won’t be there anymore.
Thanks – mom died in her sleep peacefully but unexpectedly – relatively young – mid 60s. i miss her dry, sharp and almost wicked humor and ultra subtle sarcasm that would leave the keenest ear guessing
she was terribly afraid of a slow lingering death so she go what she wanted – just much sooner :/
dawg
I Feel crying is a good thing it is a way of realising emotions that are bottled up inside.
For me my experience was 17 years ago after having my daughter I had postal depression and cried all the time day and night every day and night. Then I tok a overdose my one and only attempt at suicide. Then after that I shut down not able to cry even not even at deaths of thsts loved ones. That was 14 years of never ever crying then 3 years ago something happened that made me cry. Not sure why this was different but it was. Even though crying can feel awful and sad I Feel more content that I can cry again.
I don’t know what the answer is for you but feeling numb is a normal part of depression so don’t feel alone and maybe just maybe that one thing that will realse the tears will happen
Jules x
I hope my mom makes it to her 60’s. It’s always the good ones that seem to die young. I think that’s because they give all their love away and don’t save any for themselves.
I hope so maybe it’ll just hit us like lightning and we’ll all start crying
You know it’s terrible my son was watching a preschool program the other day and the song went;
You gotta stop crying you gotta keep trying.
And I’m like so that’s how they are indoctrinating the youth. I know the song was meant to be helpful to be hopeful in bad situations but I feel its just making little kids feel bad for crying.
Try writing it out. Sometimes if I can’t cry I use a piece of paper that no one else will see and just get all my problems in front of me.
My husband was bought up that it was a failure to cry or show your emotions and is now hard on the outside. I think apart of me felt that he toughts my emotions was a failure so I kept it all in. It was not until at couples counselling I found out one of the reasons he feel in love with me was that I was so in connect with my emotions. Then on the other hand a grew up seeing my mum cry ALL the time on a daily bases and I felt her sorrow consumed me.
So I think there has to be a balance somewhere I hope my children find it
Jules x
You sound a lot like me Jules. Except for the crying I tell my husband all the time how I’m feeling even though I don’t show anyone else and he loves me for it. I hope my son too can find a balance between feeling and non-feeling. I guess when I met my husband he was the only one who could get inside my head you know like he would know what I was feeling just from changing my breathing.
It is really special to have that connection with someone tresure it 🙂
Jules x