Jump? no!!! Your therapist, believes in you and knows you are strong enough to confront your father. He also needs to know the harm, pain, and damage he has done to you. Why carry with the pain alone if someone else did the harm?
i also believe in you…
Hi NotAlone. I have just one thing to add here. I don’t know what your father did to you, but with mine there was some sexual abuse, and he was in total denial about it when confronted (I did this when I started working with a therapist for the first time, in my mid thirties).
Chances are your Dad may do the same. He might try to say that you brought your difficulties on yourself in some way, and deny all responsibility for them. This is ‘normal’ behaviour for an abuser. Just be prepared for that, but go ahead if your therapist thinks it would be useful and it feels like the right thing to do.
Only you know your exact situatio but remember it is never ok to put things into the back of your mind and say i’ll deal with them later. If you truely aren’t ready to handle mentally or emotially then don’t. But if you’re just scared of what might happen or you’ve become comfortable with your life and don’t want to shake it up them maybe you should go for it. Facing your fears and in this case your father might just help you heal. if you never confront him you might not be able to fully heal. :/
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Jump? no!!! Your therapist, believes in you and knows you are strong enough to confront your father. He also needs to know the harm, pain, and damage he has done to you. Why carry with the pain alone if someone else did the harm?
i also believe in you…
Therapist may be right, maybe it’s time.
Good luck.
Hi NotAlone. I have just one thing to add here. I don’t know what your father did to you, but with mine there was some sexual abuse, and he was in total denial about it when confronted (I did this when I started working with a therapist for the first time, in my mid thirties).
Chances are your Dad may do the same. He might try to say that you brought your difficulties on yourself in some way, and deny all responsibility for them. This is ‘normal’ behaviour for an abuser. Just be prepared for that, but go ahead if your therapist thinks it would be useful and it feels like the right thing to do.
Good luck NotAlone. Zx
Only you know your exact situatio but remember it is never ok to put things into the back of your mind and say i’ll deal with them later. If you truely aren’t ready to handle mentally or emotially then don’t. But if you’re just scared of what might happen or you’ve become comfortable with your life and don’t want to shake it up them maybe you should go for it. Facing your fears and in this case your father might just help you heal. if you never confront him you might not be able to fully heal. :/