I had a classmate who became a really good friend this year, and I eventually trusted him enough to tell him about my depression and eventually my suicidal thoughts. I was going to kill myself on August 31st, but the day before, he and another friend showed up at my house and told my family. At first I was in shock that my family suddenly knew, and I didn’t feel mad at him, just betrayed. Fast forward to today and now I hate him and her. I’m doing my best to avoid any contact, but at the same time not arousing any suspicions since my parents don’t know that I’m avoiding him and her. I’ve tried to look online for people in my situation to see how they’ve dealt with whistleblower friends, but I don’t see anything. Any advice?
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seriously?
ugh, this is something I’ve worried about. Maybe to make it very clear to the person you tell that were they to repeat this to anyone, it would only make you more depressed, more hopeless, and more likely to kill yourself? That’s all I’ve come up with in thinking about it (that or threatening the other person, which I’d say isn’t a nice idea)
i believe when people make suicide dates and actually (have someone to) tell its because subconsciously they want to be saved. i have a friend who made a suicide date and told his sister, of course she called the cops, they took him to the psychiatric hospital against his will for 3 days. after the whole ordeal, he did admit that he told someone to see if they cared and to see if they would save him, and he didnt even realize it till he was better. when you are depressed like this your judgement is cloudy, and you may feel like you want to die, but the fact that you even talk about it is your mind somewhere deep in the dark saying “help”. because i have never told anyone that i want to die. that i think about suicide all day. for me it feels as if one day im here… and when i feel like _____ then i’l be gone. no point in stirring up the snowglobe.
People who are not, or have never been, suicidal are threatened by the thought of it. We all die eventually. Some of us want to take that time of death into our own hands for one reason or another. In American society, this is deemed horrifying and unacceptable. Why? I do not know.
Your friends perhaps cared and wanted to help you; therefore told your family. It means that they care. But it does not mean that they understand.
People on this website do understand, for the most part.
After viewing many posts and responses, I believe some on this website are therapists or wantabe saviors. You will spot them eventually by their lack of real understanding in their comments.
None of us want to die alone, but due to predjudice, we have to.
Form my personal experience….
I have never told anyone…. Might have had a set date and in my own way secretly said goodbye to the ones close to me….
One big reason being…. After my first failed attempted (Unintentionally realised)
But after that I decided that it is my secret… I have had many mornings waking up….
Disappointed…. But without having to expain anyting to anyone….
I have a date set but that is when I can no longer pay my rent and will be evicted to the cold rainy streets. I go into all that on my post. I don’t want to be “saved” because there is nothing to save.
” In American society, this is deemed horrifying and unacceptable. Why? I do not know”
This is how the slave master controls the slaves. They actually get the people to enslave themselves. Any attempt to free yourself from the bondage will cause an outcry amongst the population. Such as suicide. They will attack you with everything they have. Isn’t it bizare how if you want to die the powers that be will force you to stay alive, but if your dying of disease without health insurance and you want to live they eject you to die in the streets.
I think there’s a lot to be saved from reading the comments of other posters. Some of the stuff sounds extreme, but some sounds like real shit, and truths that normal people don’t say.
Doesn’t mean that I include myself amongst those who would be better off “saved”. If I have the choice between a life of misery (or even a decade of misery and not getting to enjoy life normally and consistently and thrive), then I say better to burn out fast.
The problem is that they already told, like I said. I’m asking for advice as to how I should deal with them now. I can’t keep avoiding them forever.
That they told means they care. Talk to the people, see what happened. Then you can decide what to do about the situation.
Or, you could take the easy way out and tell them to shove off.
Whatever you do, good luck.