Or am I the only one who hates when someone says ” it’s all up to you whether you want to get better or not” or something along those lines. I understand what they mean, saying it’s up to us to get over what’s upsetting us, if we want to get better. That no one can help fix us but ourselves. While that may be true, when I’m in such a depressed state and someone tells me this I can’t help but feel a little angry. Of course, if I could put everything aside and be happy and okay, I would. BUT the way I’m feeling is too intense. I’m sorry I can’t be as strong as the next person. People on the outside, who don’t understand this feeling, don’t know how hard it is to simply move on and make oneself better. To have that be told to you when you’re so sad, is to me, so hurtful and upsetting.
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Yeah, it kind of trivializes depression by suggesting that people who are depressed just haven’t tried, or don’t want to. But it’s understandable that people would think like that. Most people don’t understand how depression is like a cage that you can’t escape from not just a bad place you walk into of your own volition.
Scar, oh my goodness, your response seriously made me teary eyed. This is the first time I ever really said this and to know that someone understands just feels so amazing. I’ve felt so alone for so long and just reading what you said makes me feel a little less alone. You’re right it is like a cage and not something one chooses to be in. Thank you so much for your response.
You’re definitely not alone, even when you’re by yourself there are people all across the world who feel just like you.
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You’re quite good at giving advice aren’t you? Funny how we all feel the same about ourselves anyway. It isn’t just you, I feel aggitated about things like this too. But it isn’t about me. It’s like I’m not here.
no its not just you this is a reason why people kill themselves there simply is no sympathy in the system,
It’s like your not here? What do you mean Swallowdie.
And that is true, there really isn’t enough sympathy. Until they can understand us and how we feel, they will continue to say things like this that hurt. It’s just so sad and upsetting
I used to think that way. Man up, buckle down, life ain’t easy blah blah blah. Now I’m crippled by depression. I could live without sympathy, but I don’t need the scorn of people who helped put me here.