I hate how much responsibility is put on me, my Grandpa is in hospital at the moment and I have to go see him every afternoon after school and all day on both Saturday and Sunday… I’m 16 and I’m failing grade 11 because I get home from the hospital at 8:00 most nights and by the time I  finally get home, I’m so exhausted and I have no time to do my assignments or see my friends and I’ve only seen my girlfriend 4 times in the past 2 and 1/2 months… And all my family do is make me feel bad about not wanting to go… I’m getting close to breaking point, and I don’t know how far I will go this time…
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Well, why doesn’t your family visit him? Also, if your grandpa’s a nice guy, wouldn’t he rather you pass year 11 than fail because of him?
I am sorry for what you are going through. You could take your assignments with you to the hospital. I promise you that if you think that you are feeling bad now you will feel even worse when your grandpa does pass and you look back on how you are viewing this.I know what I am talking about because I lose both of my parents at a young age and regretted my poor attitude towards them and the situation that I faced at the time.Take your assingments with you to the hospital. Explain to your grandpa what that you need to do your school work there. He is not awake the whole time I am sure and nurses are actually doing the caring for him.He needs a little of your time and a LOT of your compassion so please give it to him.
Honestly I would’ve snapped at my family by now… It’s a very nice thing you’re doing by visiting your grandpa everyday. I’m sure he wouldn’t mind if you did some of your assignments while you’re visiting him.
As for your girlfriend, yeah you’re just going to have to tell her to deal with it for a while. Until something happens there isn’t much you can do about seeing her.
Honestly i dont see a reason why should visit him every single day, you cant just stop your life because of him ? if you go there once or twice a week is fine, school is more important, and you also have your girlfriend, has much has you like your grandparent, you still have your life and that 1 should take priority.
sry if sound insensible, but i think its selfish that you have to go there everyday, i assume you aren’t the only person that can visit him right ?
Then don’t go. Either way he’ll die, and people will expect you to be sad about it.
My mother’s mother was 87 when she died. For the last 10 years or so of her life, she barely talked. Even back when she had the energy to talk, she only ever asked the same question to me, so conversation would dry up after a few minutes. The only person in the family she cared about was her son. Everyone else may as well have been acquaintances, to her. But at least to other people in hospice, she had a lot of visitors. And in the end, all grandmother really cared about was appearances.
I was never close to my grandmother. But she still made lunch for me when I was very small. Even if she didn’t see me as a person, but as “a grandchild” (among many), she still took care of me. (Maybe only as much as a babysitter would, but still.) I could’ve done more to take care of her, and could’ve visited more, though I don’t feel guilty for how much time I spent with her.
If you really cared about getting your work done, just take it with you and do it during visits. Your grandpa will probably understand.