humans are selfish to varying degrees ..
self-interest motivates their actions more than often
if people feel like they can relate to you (a reminder they aren’t alone) or think there’s sthg to gain from knowing you
(laughters, ego stroke, money, sex, social exposure etc)
then they’ll bother to know you .. there’s something in for them
if your attitude says: “I really need someone to notice me .. anybody !!!
I’m dying over here and my complaints are pretty much all I have to offer”
the majority won’t care till you’re dead .. very unfortunate but true
create in others the desire/drive to know you
get them to believe this: (s)he doesn’t (really) need me while I can gain sthg from knowing him/her
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I once offered sympathy to all those who screamed “I really need someone to notice me .. anybody !!!I’m dying over here and my complaints are pretty much all I have to offerâ€
And I did it for as long as I could while eating other people’s negativity became and increasing burden on me.
Until a point where I said ‘hey I’m not a human garbage can for your negativity’.
Do you think it’s selfish that I should look after my own sanity first?
No. It’s called having self respect.