I’ve had enough suffering with depression for a while. Now my best friend is going through alot of problems, and i mean ALOT. i need to stay with her and help her through it all, but it kills me. I’m always flashing back to when i was were she is now.. alone, anorexic, crying, cutting, all of it. Now i have to sit here and watch her deal with all of this, and i have to try and help her get better. Shes really stubborn as it is, but shes in denial, she doesnt see whats really going on, and she doesnt see where everyone is coming from; she doesnt get that shes in trouble and she needs help, and the help has to be from other people, not just herself.
Am i just being selfish? I cant deal with my own issues, because i have to help her with her problems.. and i no longer have my best friend to go to for help when i need it.. is that selfish? Cause now i feel alone in what i have to deal with..
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I wish I had a friend like you. Good on you, but make sure you look after yourself too.
Sometimes helping the other person is good for you! Reversing roles! Keeps you on your toes
I’m sure she feels awful for dragging you down. I think if it helps maybe you should seperate from her a little until she gets her shit together. Sometimes people can drag you down with them and i dont think you need that now… You sound like an amazing friend but dont hurt yourself just to help someone who cant help themselves and who is “spiraling out of control” as i might imagine alot of people describe her as. Best of wishes to you both <3
thanks guys <3 means alot to me to know that even strangers can care