So as it turns out one of my closest friends is gay. He came out about 4 days ago and we were all shocked because he has had more GF’s than me in the past. We didn’t really know what to say, we couldn’t really say much since he just text us this.
We all met up the other night and it was the first real test to see if things were going to be different just because he was gay.  I like to think we are an open minded bunch, and I also liked to think that I am not prejudiced against anyone for any reason. But you never really know if your comfortable around a gay friend until you are actually in the situation.
Thankfully I didn’t feel any different, he is my buddy and as far I am concerned nothing has changed, and so did the rest of the gang, we all hung out and made our usual banter. There was gay jokes and we all laughed, but that is who we are we all mock each other. He said he was glad that things hadn’t changed just because he was gay. So I think that should make things easier for him, since he knows he has all of us as friends regardless of whatever anyone else thinks. he is worried about telling his parents though. I hope it goes ok for him.
I also went out the other night and it was just good fun, I now see that the fear comes before actually going out and then it kind of disappears when I get there. So in future I will just take the plunge into social situations and hope that they will be fine once I am there.
I hope everyone is doing ok, hanging in there for a little while longer.
I guess I don’t know what to say really. I hate posting happy stuff on here because it feels like I am showing off or shit I cant think of the correct words in English to describe it. I feel like I am hurting people by telling you I am having a good day when I know so many of you are suffering or in pain.
I wish you all all the luck and happiness in the world. You deserve it more than most.
Peace
Ruins
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CRAP
There is not such a thing as “be gay”. In English you don’t have the right verb to be, but in all other languages, the verb to be there is for a permanent condition like being white, tall or short and temporary conditions like tired or sick.
There is not such a thing as being gay because that is not some inborn quality but the result of a very complex set of elements, emotional wounds, micro-traumatic experiences in life, weak personality being dragged by gay hype Zionist Controlled Media pro gay etc.
I would rather say that you had no business in this web but you purposefully trolled in the subject of “being gay” in an attempt to manipulate us into accepting it the way you supposedly accepted it.
Being gay is like being depressed. Not anything you would laugh at, and definitively nothing you would toast about.
I just wanted to say thank you for posting something uplifting. Why only post the beginning of a journey? It’s good to see when someone who’s been struggling is getting happier with life 🙂
Oracle, you make a good point. (I totally didn’t even notice that part of the post, just the latter part because of some of my personal experiences).
I read your post from a little earlier, btw. It struck me, but I could not think of what to comment.
Your “gay friend” what he needs is therapy, simply address his problem, dig in the roots of his sexual deviation instead of texting friends about the latest break to toast about. Very probably, your friend, who had that many girls before, entered a personal crisis of emptiness, where nothing else made sense to him, stopped getting a hardon with girls, and was dragged by the Zionist pro gay hype lobbies and he felt that it would add some salt into his life to now come up with an new “I am gay” break and be the focus of attention of his friends. Probably he felt extremely lonely and thought that by saying “oops, today I am gay” everybody will talk about him and will tell him how right and brave he was about coming out of the closet.
What a measly and pathetic stupidity of people.
oracle – you have the right to your opinion on such matters, but i feel your comments on the matter as it relates to this post are inappropriate and irrelevant. please refrain from expressing what amounts to hurtful personal philosophy, unless it is to be on a post of your own creation.
thank you
Dear oracle, you have a right to your option however I believe you are accusing me of something I did not do. I was simply posting news of the things that happended to me during the week and writing about how I felt at the time of each event, it is something I learned in therapy.
“you purposefully trolled in the subject of “being gay†in an attempt to manipulate us into accepting it the way you supposedly accepted it.”
I am not trying to force my views on you or anyone else, my post is mine alone is solely for me and some of my SP friends and anyone else who wants to read it can. I did not accept anything because I never had a problem with gay people because why the fuck would I. I was simply expressing a concern that I had, which is when people say they dont mind gays, but then feel weird around them. And I am thankful I didnt feel weird.
So yeah, you can take your narrow minded. 1960’s option and shove it up your prejudiced ass. I have neither time or respect for people who view people who are different from them as hatefully as you do.
In sumation, Oracle, please go drown yourself in a bucket of paint.
@ VitalShox, love.lost.gone thanks and all the best 🙂
I agree love.lost.gone. No-one choses to be Gay. Many try sooo hard not to be, for sooo long but what is, remains. A person is Gay whether they want to be or not, there is no choice in the matter. I am not Gay but I have worked with many who are and some who try so hard not to be; they have trouble . You are, or you are not, work it out from there, finding a life they can live satisfactorily.
The way you think and speak Oracle will cause others much distress and pain. Nothing positive will ever come out of your beliefs.
Love to you.
@ love.lost.gone
I can easily beat your comment.
“irrelevant” ? you could have not chosen a more inappropriate adjective because I am very much addressing the core of the issue. The original post is a clear and outright troll sneaked by the gay lobbies. Therefore, it is 100% pertaining to the issue and relevant.
As per “my opinion”:
I have studied the etiology of sexual deviations profoundly and, unlike the immense majority of people who sympathize with things that they ignore, I have clearly stated the basic grounds that lie at the root of said deviations. They are emotional wounds, and as I indicated they must be addressed, just like you address depression.
Precisely, the gay lobbies are causing untold harm to people with that condition because they are depriving them with the chance to address the issue. Even in California they have forbidden under 18 year old boys with same sex inclinations to seek therapy. That is an outright criminal violation of the basic human rights of a person, the right to care and cater for his own health and liberty.
The true issue with regards to you is that you disliked my comment, but that is a completely different issue and what you tried to do is what in philosophy is known as “strawman argument” that is, invent a false statement that can easily be attacked and then attribute it to your adversary, in this case me. Only that I identify that attempt and I dismember it.
So, I would be the last person to mock about those with same sex inclinations, even if they toast about, precisely because I know how complex and difficult the series of factors is that lead them to that. Most of them have been sexually abused during childhood, others have suffered deep emotional wounds, (breakup with loved ones, lost of loved ones), personal crisis.
When you see anger in what I write, it is not directed to the same sex inclined person, but to the troller who sneaked in to pour more gasoline in a problem that many people have.
oracle – the fact that your very first sentence in your very long-winded reply was, “I can easily beat your comment” only goes to show that you seem to think of this as some sort of challenge or debate.
there is nothing to debate here. this is not a political, philosophical or otherwise similar forum open for structured or open debate.
the OP is not a troll. it would seem moreover that your use of his post to extoll your own personal beliefs on the causes of homosexuality would do more to define you as the troll.
i am not replying in anger to your personal opinions. i am simply stating two things. one, RuinsOfTheVoid is clearly not a troll. two, this is not a forum meant for debate, so “beating and dismembering” my comments is kind of pointless.
and for your consideration, just because you may have studied something at great lengths does not always make what you say about it the final and absolute truth. you have an answer that works well for you and that is great. but not everyone will agree with your answer, and just because they do not does not make them wrong… it just makes them different. please keep in mind that we are people on the other side of these words… just because you cannot see us, does not mean that we are any less human, with all of the diversity and complexities as everyone else. i will respect that of you as well.