I’m unhappy, I haven’t been diagnosed with depression, but I find that I’m easily depressed. The only moment of repose I feel is either when I’m asleep, (due to the fact that I do not dream, it’s just blackness and my worries fade away… until I wake up and find them again) and when I’m with my girlfriend (one of the few reasons I feel I can continue).) I get this uncomfortable, heavy feeling in my chest a lot when I’m sad and it makes me want to tear my heart out. I often am discouraged due to my lousy fast food job, my lack of housing, (I’m living with my parents because the real world was too scary and I’m a huge coward, so I moved back in and the rental agencies make it impossible to find an affordable place to live)the loss of all of my “friends” who no longer like me because I don’t party and get messed up with them, and the observations I’ve made about the screwed up world we all have the misfortune of inhabiting. I went to college for awhile, but I’m neither financially stable or intelligent enough to get a degree. The observations I spoke of earlier are often overwhelmingly spirit crushing. What’s the point when it always seems like money is the only thing that matters to anyone? I work my crummy job for what? Pieces of paper? Money is nothing more than an illusion and yet it controls everything! I can’t even seek a councilor because it costs too much money! IT COSTS MONEY TO TALK TO SOMEONE THAT SHOULD BE TRYING TO HELP ME, A FELLOW HUMAN BEING, TO STOP FEELING LIKE OFFING MYSELF!? I constantly feel stuck, never getting anywhere. I never see anyone following their passions anymore. Did all of these people want to be tax accountants? Did they always dream of being a manager at Walmart?? WE ARE ALL REPLACEABLE DRONES! I want to be a musician and an artist, and I’ll admit, I have some degree of talent at both, (I’m not trying to be cocky at all, I have a huge self confidence issue, one that I’m constantly battling.) but our world doesn’t need artists! There is no culture in our society anymore and no seeing the soul or value in art! Every single day, I have to wake up, look in the mirror and tell myself, “Just make it through one more day.” I’m scared and stressed and I’m constantly asking myself what the point of any of this is. I desperately need a voice of reason, I need resources to help me cope. I used to use drugs and alcohol as crutches to escape from reality, but I cleaned up and have been sober for awhile now… but I’m afraid I’m going to relapse! Please someone give me some advice, give me a pep talk or something… Help me find a reason and the emotional resources to keep going…
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How will you feel if you never pursue your dreams?
Look,all you said is sad,sad truth.World is wrong.People are fucked.But you have to keep moving.You cant give up that easy!As long you have people who love you around you,as long you have your art,you are good.Find some kind of escape in that.You can do it!And if you ever need talk ,im here 🙂
If you haven’t got a dream now, find something. Music, art, jobs, whatever. Just grasp at something. It’s all a fuck up I know, but right now just go for whatever is in reach, sucky as it might be. Just hang on to the fact that it’s better that you get somewhere than nowhere.
We all go through days when we feel like we are fighting everyone in the world. I would be really surprised if you manage to find that one person that hasn’t felt down at least a few times in their life. To be honest it is really tough out there in the world, but at the same time, i think you are too ready to accept that there is no one out there who feels the same way as you do. You need to love yourself, build resilience in your heart. You have managed to find a girlfriend who seems to be there for you, that, believe me counts as something. There are many many lonely hearts out there who can’t find someone who will give them the time of day for a myriad of reasons. If you believe that you are talented at being an artist or musician, then look deeper into the life around you, rather than just scratch the surface and think thats all there is to it. Thats what they do, they learn and innovate new perceptions and challenge us to think differently, to open our eyes. Nothing comes easy, life is suppose to challenge you, make you stronger, make you feel alive – you need to feel angry, sad, happy, frustrated, blaze, larthargic at times because it is those feelings that show you, physically and mentally that you are alive and experiencing life. Of course money is materialistic, but that is how we function and you need to accept that and move on from that thought, it’ll just drive you crazy. Learn to accept. Sometimes you need to push yourself, sometimes when you just dive into things it comes out fine, you are okay. Some things you go through you can’t prepare for. As for your so called friends… honestly they don’t sound like they are worth the time of day sweet heart, sometimes you need to make your own friends again and again, friends come and go in life and the most important thing is that you take what you have learned from those experiences… sometimes losing a friend allows you to find or gain another amazing friend. Things happen for a reason, beating yourself up and blaming the world is not the answer, thats the lazy way out, the more you think you are depressed the more comfortable you are with it and you will just be dependent on living with those thoughts. Challenge your girlfriend intellectually, tickle her or go out, do things that will inspire you, you have access to the internet! Learn! You do not need to be in school to learn – its about common sense and thinking outside the box, we have an infinite amount of resources – just type and there you go. Get to know yourself, all the different sides to yourself not just your sad or depressed side! You are wasting and forgetting how strong of a person you can be. Sometimes you don’t need to be born with charisma, BUILD IT, find things that inspire you and dedicate an entire wall, so when you wake up every morning you see it. If you want to be an artist, say it to yourself everyday and do it everyday! Living with your parents isn’t the saddest thing in the world, it might be uncool to people but who honestly cares, the people who judge won’t know any better and at the end of the day they don’t think about it when they go to bed at night because its so momentary, just learn to laugh and move on, find humour in all things you do because it is a priceless tool. Also, we are in a tight position economically, things do not come easy as they use to, its almost impossible to afford a house or an apartment these days without living in borderline poverty. Build resilience, build YOURSELF, dont think that you are already refined and polished and done, you are not! You power through life, when bad things happen, just let it be, let the chips fall as they may. If you feel like shit, embrace it but done feed it and think how you will make the next hour better. Give love to other people, love your girlfriend, because not everything has to be about how depressed you are, sometimes giving someone else that little time will go along way for yourself, it will give you self worth and a reason to keep going, compassion and open mindedness will help you learn to give back and receive. If you realise how much potential you have, you will no doubt be amazing – keep wanting to learn and accumulate knowledge- the more you grow the better you know yourself. Learn to love yourself, build a relationship with YOURSELF, that might sound silly on the surface but it is how you will learn to rely on yourself during the real crap times. You are not the first person to feel sad and you will most definitely won’t be the last, the difference is how will you face this challenge and rise above it. Goodluck
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The friends you left sound for the most part like rather trashy people. See if you can find some new ones, others who are starting to turn their lives around.
While some people may not appreciate or even want art, they need it. As you alluded to, people are usually unfeeling and motivated by greed. But art, and music, dance, writing- these are what really make life worth living. These are what is truly enjoyable.
Look. what I am certainly seeing is that your attitude is much worse than your situation. This means you have to address that, at least to have respect for people who are undergoing awful situations and still keep it up.
You are young, have a girlfriend, some income, and you live with your parents. I would give a hand to have that now.
Since you are young, do study something useful and stop moaning about the rotten society that I know it is, but first you need to solve your permanent income. Then you can moan and become an artist too.
A tax accountant at Deloitte makes 100.000 pounds a year, 150.000 dollars a year. With that money you can buy one house every year and retire before you are 35. And then you can dedicate the remaining 35 to shit about the world.