I have been married for 25 years to the love of my life.Three months ago I was diagnosed with non small cancer of the lung and mets to the brain. Inoperable. One week later i found out my wife has been having an affair for three years. when I confronted her about it she told me she did not love me and has not most of our marriage. She stayed because I was a great provider and safe choice. she told me she has had six affairs in all. I am a broken man. She will not even take me to my chemo treatments. I want to die in a messy way so she will find my body and think about it the rest of her life.
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I am so sorry some one could be so inhuman to you. You deserve support and care.
What an evil woman. I am so sorry.
Sounds like the type who would celebrate your agony.
If what you’ve posted is accurate, then i cannot, in good conscience, advise against whatever you might want to do about it.
I won’t say “don’t do it,” and i won’t say “if you truly loved her, you wouldn’t.”
I will say… sometimes people get what they deserve, Because someone else makes sure they do.
I’ve felt something similar, though the circumstances are quite different.
I can’t help but hear a line, repeating… “if i don’t, no one will…”
I don’t necessarily want to encourage you… but, honestly, i don’t see how anything anyone might say, would discourage you.
It’s truly a fucked up situation you have there. I only hope you find some semblance of peace, before the end.
I’m so sorry about all of this.
I wish I could do something, but I know I can’t.
My parents left me a wonderful house and over 35 acres of land that was mine before I married. i am changing my will to give everything including life insurance money to my daughter from previous relationship. My wife never liked her and drove a wedge between me and my daughter. I talked to my daughter tonight to say how sorry I really am. I will leave our rental home to my wife just so she has dry place to sleep. This i9s the first time I have felt at peace since this began. Just think at Christmas we was at Disney World and I thought I was the luckiest man in the world. Thanks to all of you.
Fuck that.. Make that ***** sleep in the rain!!
…sorry
Best wishes my friend
No need to
be sorry. I like the way you think
Oh dear God. I’m so, so sorry, my friend. I too wish there was something I could say that would be helpful, but I know there isn’t. For whatever it’s worth to you, I’m praying for you, for your peace. I’m no zealot, but I know God is out there somewhere, keeping us going. Is there any way you can be with your daughter at this time? She will love you no matter what, you are her daddy.
Hi just wanted to let you know you’re not alone out there. I am struggling with these thoughts every day as I have a wasting genetic condition that slowly kills and am well along the progression. Much preferable to kill myself rather than keep enduring surgery after surgery until the end. Cruel, pointless live I lead. So far I’ve just been living for my dog and aging parents sake. But I have no personal desire to live. Suicide would be such a relief and it is always beckoning me.
Hi just wanted to let you know you’re not alone out there. I am struggling with these thoughts every day as I have a wasting genetic condition that slowly kills and am well along the progression. Much preferable to kill myself rather than keep enduring surgery after surgery until the end. Cruel, pointless live I lead. So far I’ve just been living for my dog and aging parents sake. But I have no personal desire to live. Suicide would be such a relief and it is always beckoning me.
Divorce her and use the affairs to gaim the advantage in the divorce~ she
Sounds horrible….I’m sorry.
I am calling her tomorrow. My daughters mom and my wife have been “enemy’s” since grade school. 35 years ago. My daughter’s mother dumped me while we were dating and she was pregnant. she got another fall guy to think he was the daddy. 3 before I saw her the first time.. The reason she told me later was to receive child support. I never misses a payment. Later I married my wife and things were great.s My daughter moved in with is when she was 15 and having problems. I set some rules and boundaries. Her mom told her if she move back she could do what she wanted. Guess what she moved back. Became pregnant, quit school and her mom thought nothing of it. Her mom was killed in a wreck 3 years later. I have been there for her but my wife always seemed jealous.. My daughter married a loser who is in jail for 35 years and has three kids that are my grand kids and I love them. But my wife has a problem with them. I have taken care of business matters and in a few days my problems will be over. I am going to talk to my wife in person and off myself in front of her. I have terminal cancer anyways and they say only a few months to live. I am going to let her see me do it. Revenge is sweet. My daughter will get most things. I have already talked ti a lawyer and sighed the papers. I even made a video to my wife mailed to her after I am gone
Reading this post is so heartbreaking. I am Burnside1’s sister. He did commit suicide. I just don’t know what to say. he did not kill himself in front of his wife. He rented hotel 15 hours away close to Disney World. I am so shocked I had no idea his wife was treating him that way. He was always a private person and i wish he had talked to a professional. I am staying at his house because his wife said too many memories. I know I should not have been snooping on their computer but I am going to make sure every one in the family knows why. He didn’t leave a note so reading some of his post on here and other sites tells me he was a tortured soul. I see my sister in law in a new light.
Suicide IS NOT the answer. The coroner told my husband he probably survived several hours before expiring (his words)What a mess this all is. Damn I miss him. Thank you to those who tried to help.