I just get annoyed when people think that as long as you have a loving family and a house over your head, you have no business being depressed. It’s way more complicated than that. for someone growing up a gay teen in a strongly heterosexual world and hearing about kids killing themselves because of bullying for being LGBT, it’s tough living. To hear people talking about how LGBT’s shouldn’t be allowed to get married or be couples is not easy. You really just want to yell at them, but you have to hide it because who knows what would happen “if someone found out.” My parents can be very frustrating, mainly since they both can talk without thinking about what they’re saying. I’ve been told and called some things that have never left my memory, and I never received a sincere apology for any of it. Sure, for the most part, they care about me and love me, but that doesn’t mean that I can’t stand them sometimes or I don’t have problems with them. You don’t live with them. Furthermore, if you still think I have nothing to be depressed about, read my post entitled “My Path to Recovery.” Hopefully, that will at least put a few things into perspective.
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It’s like as if life isn’t shitty enough, people have to bash on who you are. Don’t worry so much gay marriage will be normal someday and less teens will have to struggle, it really hurt my feelings when my mom used to refer to me as a dyke in front of everyone even though I clearly love being a girl, but you know what? Screw what people think love who you want and always be proud of who you are
I just have a feeling it won’t be looked at without question in my lifetime. Seriously, people still get bullied or put to death for it. My dad’s trying not to say things like “That’s so gay,” but he still needs to work on that. That phrase is really offensive because it associates the word “gay” with bad things.I also make sure he doesn’t refer to any girls with short hair and more muscle as “butch girls.” I hate that term. I don’t like a lot of women’s clothing, but I don’t want to be labelled as “butch” or “lipstick.” I also do not hate men or boys. I have a great relationship with my dad and guitar teacher and have played in a band in which I was the only girl. Had a blast!
You’re going to have to accept that people will indeed label you according to their own perceptions and value systems, and will judge you by criteria not of your choosing. The only thing you can really do about it, is to know yourself well enough to know whether they are wrong; and if they are indeed wrong, or are judging you by what you see as invalid criteria, then there is nothing obligating you to value their judgment.
OTOH: would you like to be told that you’re not allowed to “call it like you see it?” That’s all those people are really doing. They’re seeing it a certain way, and calling it that. You literally cannot stop people from having their own opinion, no matter how wrong it is. The best you can do is attempt to educate them, and hope they are open-minded enough to be receptive to new knowledge or alternative perspectives. If they’ve already decided not to understand, there’s not much you can do except refuse to place any value on their opinion, and define their judgement as invalid.
I know. People often suck very badly, which is why I’d rather never have to deal with them, but the only way to do that is to die.
You very lucky to have a parent that supports you, and it’ll happen one day or another we just have to be patient
Common stereo type is that we hate men and its very ridiculous lol
My philosophy is that if you’re depressed, even if *you* don’t know why, then… well, you’re depressed. Anyone who says you have no reason to be depressed doesn’t get that depression often doesn’t need a reason. If you’re feeling depressed, that’s all the reason there needs be for it. I mean, holy fuckballs, it’s not as if being depressed is awesome fun and people just want to feel that way.
Also, people are dumb. They don’t accept things they don’t understand, because they haven’t been put in a situation where they need to learn to understand it. Doesn’t make it right or good, but it does mean they’re idiots and not worth listening to. Only people who understand the problem are worth listening to, because they understand it and won’t say ridiculous things out of a lack of experience with an issue. There’s nothing wrong with you in that sense, but there is a lot wrong with society that needs fixing, and it takes a while to fix it.