I’ve posted on here multiple times about the same thing…Â It might be getting old to some people,but it’s comforting knowing that someone cares.
It’s hard to explain how it feels knowing that the woman who brought me in to the world left so easily. I hate not knowing what it’s like having a mom.
Losing someone to suicide is very different from losing someone to a natural cause. I’m not saying that one is more painful than the other; I’m saying that the healing process is difficult. Grief counsellors speak of closure, and how important it is when healing. When somebody kills themselves, you’re not given answers. You never got to say a final goodbye, you never get to yell at that person for leaving you. It hurts, it hurts so much and it makes me feel numb knowing that she’s gone and I’m left here suffering.
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I want to give you a hug. *hugs*
I am sorry for your loss and I know it is very hard without her….
but I just want to point out a few things….had she died from a heart attack or stroke or sudden natural causes…you still wouldn’t have answers…you still wouldn’t have gotten a final goodbye…you still wouldn’t get to yell at her for leaving you and it would still hurt knowing she is not here….
I’m not trying to make you feel bad but sometimes I think we differentiate suicide from other deaths too much when really it is only different for one reason….
True, but as I said I wasn’t trying to say that one was worst than the other.
Growing up, I had always believed that my mother died from cancer. I still didn’t get to say goodbye. However, when I had a flashback that reminded me of the suicide I witnessed, I was overcome with such grief. It’s as if I lost her twice.
Honestly, it hurts more for me knowing that she voluntarily left.