Dont you just despise that moment where you try to prove something to someone & they just ignore all of it and just accuse you? Yup. This has been happening to me for about 6 months now. Can I just stop trying? Its killing me.
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Hone your words and meanings until they are razor sharp and undeniably precise.
Be careful about spending your time proving something to someone who either doesn’t care, or has already made the decision to act a certain way, regardless.
Sometimes proof doesn’t even matter. Try to make sure those to whom you would prove anything, actually care whether it is proven.
And if it’s obvious they don’t care, you can totally just use the “i’m right; you’re wrong; that’s that.” assertion. Maybe even switch the burden to them, and ask them whether they even care what is or isn’t true.
Some people will decide to blame you for their own actions, no matter what you say or do, no matter how blatantly obvious it may become that something is actually their own fault. For those people, the best you can do is not waste your time on them, and try not to let them affect your life (which isn’t always possible).
See the person means so much to me. If I stop, they’ll settle it with a “see, im right” and my consequences for that arent pretty. But if I dont stop, they’ll keep going & it tears me into shreds. I honestly dont know what to do.
Sounds like you’re in a debate with a teabagger republican … they reject facts, evidence and logic … so yes, you can stop trying since nothing will get through.
Take care of what’s best for you first.
economical dawg
You shouldn’t be doing things to get a positive response from someone. If what your trying to prove is something good then you should do it proudly and expect nothing in return. Eventually that person will realize whats going on and appreciate it, if they truly care for you.
If they don’t want to listen, you can’t make them. But if you know you’re right, and someone doesn’t want to listen… all you can do is try until you’re tired of trying.
If they refuse to listen, you can accuse them of being afraid to realize they’re wrong… but it might not do any good. Some people you just can’t reach. They have already decided not to understand, and to continue seeing things the way they want to see them, and telling themselves what they want to believe, sometimes regardless of the most blatantly obvious contrary evidence.
But then, sometimes, you can’t blame them, because that whole thing is a coping mechanism some people need, and can’t get along in life without it.