If somebody is in a true crisis and takes action based on emotion, I probably wouldn’t call them selfish… because coping mechanisms can be unconscious and not planned in advance. In other words, it could be an act on impulse.
If somebody is not in a true crisis and has time to stop and think, I might/might not call them selfish. It just depends. But if you don’t care what others think and you know your actions will affect them, that might be selfish.
With all that said, I respect whatever decision you make… I’m simply responding to your question.
Let’s talk about why you would want to kill yourself. I am not anti suicide, I my world there is a place for it. However, I doubt you may meet the criteria for such an actin. I am here to listen if you would like to talk.
I focused on the question about being selfish but didn’t address your statement about killing yourself. Thankfully, OnlyLOVEisReal left a compassionate reply. I’m here, too, if you’d like to talk… even if it’s just listening. There are some members here that I’ve shared some tough situations with… and they didn’t judge… and I appreciated that. I try to do the same.
When we’re depressed sometimes we think nothing can be worse than death… but that’s not true. Imagine stabbing all those who know and care for you. Do you think it would hurt? It would a great deal. You may feel some of them even deserve that but they don’t, no one does. They would probably feel guilt over not knowing how you truly feel and could even blame themselves for the rest of their lives. Is that something you want to do to other people. I know it hurts, believe me I do but I just can’t bare the thought of hurting anyone so deeply. I’ve lost a friend to suicide and even though I knew and shared in similar pain I didn’t know it would ever come to that. And I felt most guilty for not keeping in touch after she moved. It’s not something that’s fair or easy but to keep fighting gives the possibility of hope that one day this dark cloud will dissipate and you will see the sun shining again. Just try to take each day as it comes and don’t make any impulsive moves. Try to talk to people, family, friends, doctors… anyone who may be able to help you see that there are people out there that would care and miss you a great deal if you did do something harsh.
You know there are people close to you who would be very hurt to see you go. There may be some people who are treating you terribly at the moment and that can be an overwhelming feeling. You have to think about that one thing that keeps you going day after day and hold onto it. There are many times when I feel like life is not worth living but I keep going because I know that if I were to kill myself it would devastate my mother, who is already struggling through life with a plethora of her own problems. Find that reason to live!
The act of suicide is not selfish. The reasons to is what can make it selfish though. To be selfless it to do something without considering benefits/consequences on your behalf for another while considering them and acting on/because of them is selfish. If you kill yourself for only yourself then that is selfish. Does not mean you have to be selfish, if you give all your belongings to others and then kill yourself it ends up being selfless. It’s all about your mentality. Only you could truly know.
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If somebody is in a true crisis and takes action based on emotion, I probably wouldn’t call them selfish… because coping mechanisms can be unconscious and not planned in advance. In other words, it could be an act on impulse.
If somebody is not in a true crisis and has time to stop and think, I might/might not call them selfish. It just depends. But if you don’t care what others think and you know your actions will affect them, that might be selfish.
With all that said, I respect whatever decision you make… I’m simply responding to your question.
Dear idontcare123,
Let’s talk about why you would want to kill yourself. I am not anti suicide, I my world there is a place for it. However, I doubt you may meet the criteria for such an actin. I am here to listen if you would like to talk.
I focused on the question about being selfish but didn’t address your statement about killing yourself. Thankfully, OnlyLOVEisReal left a compassionate reply. I’m here, too, if you’d like to talk… even if it’s just listening. There are some members here that I’ve shared some tough situations with… and they didn’t judge… and I appreciated that. I try to do the same.
When we’re depressed sometimes we think nothing can be worse than death… but that’s not true. Imagine stabbing all those who know and care for you. Do you think it would hurt? It would a great deal. You may feel some of them even deserve that but they don’t, no one does. They would probably feel guilt over not knowing how you truly feel and could even blame themselves for the rest of their lives. Is that something you want to do to other people. I know it hurts, believe me I do but I just can’t bare the thought of hurting anyone so deeply. I’ve lost a friend to suicide and even though I knew and shared in similar pain I didn’t know it would ever come to that. And I felt most guilty for not keeping in touch after she moved. It’s not something that’s fair or easy but to keep fighting gives the possibility of hope that one day this dark cloud will dissipate and you will see the sun shining again. Just try to take each day as it comes and don’t make any impulsive moves. Try to talk to people, family, friends, doctors… anyone who may be able to help you see that there are people out there that would care and miss you a great deal if you did do something harsh.
You know there are people close to you who would be very hurt to see you go. There may be some people who are treating you terribly at the moment and that can be an overwhelming feeling. You have to think about that one thing that keeps you going day after day and hold onto it. There are many times when I feel like life is not worth living but I keep going because I know that if I were to kill myself it would devastate my mother, who is already struggling through life with a plethora of her own problems. Find that reason to live!
The act of suicide is not selfish. The reasons to is what can make it selfish though. To be selfless it to do something without considering benefits/consequences on your behalf for another while considering them and acting on/because of them is selfish. If you kill yourself for only yourself then that is selfish. Does not mean you have to be selfish, if you give all your belongings to others and then kill yourself it ends up being selfless. It’s all about your mentality. Only you could truly know.
I got to know idontcare123 a little more lately, and i can tell you she is not selfish. There’s no way to make her think she’s not though.
Either way, selfish or not, she really is a wonderful person, inside and out, and I won’t stop telling her that.
Thanks for those who replied to her post, I have hard times to keep track on the people i care about here. I did miss this post 🙁