well this is the first time I’ve ever wrote on a site like this.im just trying it out to see if it helps me to deal with my problems as there’s no one I can talk to about it.”I fell like all my male friends think it’s “gay” to show emotions “don’t get me wrong there’s noting wrong with being gay” So a little bit about me, im a 16 year old male I’m into lots of stuff like music and art but not sport (wierd I no ) and I was diagnosed with depression just over a year ago. I find it hard to “hang out” with my friends over the past few months. I have started to get “feelings” for 1 of them but can’t bring myself to tell them I love them. Also valentine day has just passed and she got an anonymous valentines present. When she told me this I went home that night and cut deeper than I had ever went before. I just felt like I screwed up and that I missed out because I didnt have the courage to let her know I liked her. I feel confused because I don’t understand why “loving” someone is making me hurt. I wish I could just say to her how I felt but it will be to late, she will find out who is was  who sent her the gift and will forget about me “i no it’s not her fault as she doesn’t no this is how I feel” please someone give me some advice.
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well think about it. does she accept you for you? does she like you for who you are. even though she got the anonymous gift doesnt mean she doesnt like you. theres still always that chance. im a 15 year old girl and i would be glad to help you through this. i know how girls work considering i am one. just tell her how you feel, even if it is through a text message. she has the right to know.. but i can also see your point with not wanting to say anything because you dont know how she is gonna react. take it from a girl. a girl would rather know how a guy feels about her rather then just sitting there wondering all the what ifs .. i know you may also be wondering the same with the what ifs but 90% of the time if a boy shows a girl how he truely feels about her there is a big chance of her feeling the same for him. i wish you the best of luck and if you need anymore advice please feel free to ask
Thanks so much for your advice, your are an amazing help. I think I’ll just have to come out and ask her,because sending a message is more risky because If she doesn’t feel the same way then she might go and show it to the rest of my friends which creates a whole new problem.( I’m not saying she would but it’s 1 of my what if’s) also any advice on how I will ask her because I don’t want to do it in front of the whole group as her brother might get annoyed :/ (shes a year younger and her brother is my age.) thanks again 🙂