You’d suspect temptation to be caused by lust or just plain carnal instincts. In my case my cousin was the lustful desires I had. Yet the true temptation at the moment pegs from Nycolle the first girl I fell for. (Read my earliest posts for my deranged and mentally inadequate child in me) Â Onto the point at hand, I recently created a new facebook, found her on it after finding she blocked me. I found her on snapchat as well and here is where I consider things. Should I really risk messaging her again. It’s been over 5 years, why bother my childhood love? Because its more tham just love. Its an obsession. If I had been a common criminal with the nerve to speak to her or act upon instincts. I’d have followed her home. stalked her and all that creepy binocular shit. Â Instead i watched from afar, cried myself to sleep and stalked her facebook. Now i resort to the same thing and like a rehabilitated addict I still feel the familiar pangs for a hit. Or like a self harmer, the desire to put my hands on my neck and push until i fall unconcious or grab a small blad and slice my flesh. Â I would chase this drug that she has become, my addiction and obsession with knowing the full brunt of withdrawal and such. Â I want there to be a reset button. Pondering so much on my days at home has brought me anxiety. Gah I fucking hate my mind.
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Others will insist you refrain “because it’s wrong,” but… the important part is that the consequences you’d risk with such pursuits, are absolutely not worth the inevitably unfavorable response you’d likely receive.
However, this is one of those types of things where people often can’t help themselves but reach for what they most desire, and learn the hard way, for themselves, why it would have been “better” to continue enduring that absence, than to attempt to resolve it. The absent one doesn’t want that absence resolved; if she did, she wouldn’t be absent (or block you, for that matter).
You can take the “you never know unless you try” approach, but in this case, people will say you’re wrong for it. Other times, those same people would likely insist that “you never know unless you try.”
Context is everything.
It’s not because it’s wrong, it’s because it’s never going to happen and you’re going to just end up hurting.
Sounds like you have a good understanding of the situation. Sometimes we bond easier than others, but if it isn’t returned, we’re just choosing to stay in a painful place.
You are enough.