i kept telling myself that if i got sober all my relationship problems would change. And they did… but not the way I wanted them too. Now that I have relapsed its even worse than before. The arguments the fist fights…. it’s all back ten fold. And now that i rebuilt relationships with my mom and sisters I don’t necessarily want to die because I don’t want to hurt them but I can’t handle this relationship up and down and pain every day. And at the end of it all it’s all my fault for being a selfish addict and no matter how much I want to change I can’t. I go to the psych doctor I take my meds I go to meetings. But I still keep slipping up and it’s ruining my relationship. Not to mention if my family finds out they will hate me. I just want to disappear
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Drinking to excess does solve problems, but only for a short time (while you’re drunk), and ultimately it causes more problems than it solves. I’m not trying to be condescending, but I’ve never had a drinking problem because I’ve always realized that ultimately I will have to sober up, and that drinking can become a problem, and is not a permanent solution (although I’m by no means a teetotaler; sometimes you really need to just get good and drunk). My personal rule is that I’m only allowed to get wasted one day a week (Friday, so that it won’t interfere with my job; 12:01 am is Saturday, so the drinking always stops by midnight), and can have two other drinks throughout the rest of the week. I always ensure that I won’t have to drive anywhere when I’m getting wasted, and that I’m in a safe environment. I don’t actually get wasted every week, but sometimes when I’m having a really horrible Tuesday I think, “Well, at least this Friday I can get good and drunk.” The advantage of this is that drinking doesn’t interfere with the rest of my life. And like I said, I’m adamant about the 12:01 am being Saturday; to quote In Bruges, “You’ve got to stick to your principles.”
Depending upon what you were on, it can take your brain up to two years to re-equilibriate. It can be a hell of a payback for the “good” times.
Family and friends need time to recover to. They’ll feel safer when they see recovery is working. Sometimes forgiveness comes faster than trust. Try focusing on what you like these relationships to be like in five years.
Depending upon what you were on, it can take your brain up to two years to re-equilibriate. It can be a hell of a payback for the “good” times.
Family and friends need time to recover to. They’ll feel safer when they see recovery is working. Sometimes forgiveness comes faster than trust. Try focusing on what you like these relationships to be like in five years.
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I doubt if you will find good advice about drinking problems or sobriety here. It is possible to regain sobriety after a relapse. It’s hard to do, but it’s worth it.