That’s very sad. It is difficult to realize that our parents dont know everything and make mistakes. You should know that you are not responsible for the emotional well-being of anyone else. This is a type of emotional guilt trip. When your mom gets like this I advise you just say, ‘Im sorry you feel that way. Please know how much I love you.’ Children do not ask to be born into the world and they owe nothing to anyone as a result. Respect has to be earned. Your mother may not have the ability to cope with what she feels so she looks for the nearest scapegoat. Having children changes lives very dramatically, and often not for the best so some parents blame their kids. This is a terrible thing to do and you should realize that it is not your fault. My advice is to develop a thicker skin. If you make a mistake or misbehave,, own up to it. Try not to be defensive. Be appreciative of her good qualities and leave the rest behind as if it doesn’t exist. It takes some practice but these are tools that will come in handy the rest of your life. Your mother may have developmental issues that prevent her from coping. So be as supportive and forgiving as possible but most importantly be sure you take care of your own emotional well-being and development. learn form her mistakes. One of the great ironies is that when we get older many of us do the very things we hated that were done to us. A good way to avoid this is with a very proactive approach. All the best!