hey everyone needed ur help, hmmm don’t know where should i start from im 25 unemployed with a mba degree, i have a sister who is excellent at everything she does whether studies or in career. Lol i hate to say this but these days in getting jealous of her. She is loved by everyone around and always excel in anything she do as far as in concerned i don’t think that i even exist in this world. she overpowers me im like a shadow who is there but no one can feel its existence
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What’s the last thing you’d want to regret in life?
I have no idea i don’t know what i want from this life
What activities do you enjoy doing throughout the day then? Reading, writing, drawing, playing sports, helping others, cooking?
I spend most of my time watching movies or drawing at times
It’s not easy finding goals in your life, for some people it takes a lot longer than for others, and often when you do find them “destiny” (i don’t know how else to call it) tends to mess whatever goal or destination you have set for yourself (not always… but most of the times).
What you do have to keep in mind tho, is that the so called “shadow” your sister casts on you is something you allow to happen. I’m not saying it’s your own fault, but you should keep in mind that things do change (for better or worse). Your sister might be talented and excellent at everything, but you do have a mba degree and that’s no small feat either, and success and studies can only go so far to make you happy.
Maybe your path is a different one, and when you find it you’ll be great at it as well. Until you do, try not to be so hard on yourself and don’t compare yourself to your sister. Success does not equal happiness, either does money or “winning” at life. Being at peace with yourself helps a lot more than those IMHO.
I know ur rite somewhere it is my fault too and i know that i should be happy for what i have obtained but then why im getting jealous from her, why i cant move on, i really don’t get it what i want from myself being indecisive is a curse but at times i feel like im comfortable and happy with wat i have and i should be thankful for it. But then seeing my lol sis who is continuously progressing in her life makes me feel jealous instead of getting happy and proud of her look wat im doing. Im such a bad person. I never had a goal for my life never cared wat others think of me but why is it happening to me now
You are not a bad person for being jealous, i think no one will go through life without fealing jealousy at least one time (but i might be wrong, lol). If it’s happening to you now it might be because a part of you is trying to make you find “that something” that is missing, as you said yourself you have no goals… maybe you are just trying to find your own way and seeing your sister succeed sets that off.
Other thing might be your parents attitude towards the both of you, it’s normal in most families that parents don’t realize that they end up creating little rivalries for their attention at young ages or competitive behaviours, and it just ends up getting stuck as you grow up.
I’d say use that jealousy/ambition in order to advance, but as i said before, don’t compare yourself, no two people are the same, and what makes others happy won’t make you happy.
My parents haven’t said a word to me but yeah they do praise my sister and i guess she does deserves them too since she work so hard for everything unlike me who keeps on complaining. Though now they wont do it since i have told them in that im getting jealous ( cant keep things to myself) i guess i will be fine in a day or two but i really wanted to thank you listening my crap story n helping me solve the mystery behind, i guess ur rite now i might want to change the course of things due my jealousy but i guess i wont be able to move on.
p.s i will try not to compare myself from her 😉
I used to feel sorry for my brother twenty years ago when I was stll young but now he’s married with a lovely child, a good job a great pension ahead of him and a nice house and I’m the one with nothing; he has everything I have ever wanted, I’m pleased for him but hate myself for my position in life
why did you feel sorry for your brother?
He never used to go out, had no friends, used to sit and watch tv, now he’s the one with the good life and it’s me who has nothing.
dont know wat to tell you 🙁 i mean i hope u dont give up and fight back
talk to your sister. She may have more input on this than you know. She may even have no idea that’s how you’re feeling. Ask her for tips on goal-setting and whatever else – she’s your sister. I’m sure your family wants nothing more than for you to succeed.
hmm i dont want her to feel sorry for me plus she is my baby lil sis, it is not her fault im the one to blame here. btw thanks everyone it does feel good when someone listens to you lol im sure i will be back normal in 2 or 3 days
To zombieeee, no I’m not giving up just yet, I’ll try to get my life back on course but sometimes it does seems easier just to give up especially when you get to middle aged. but for now I’ll keep trying.
yeah i know at some point of life u feel like giving up thats why i keep saying myslef to be positive and i know u never will 🙂