I like this guy. He broke up with his girlfriend for me and for some other reasons. Their relationship had gone on for roughly 18 months. See just last night I thought, you know I’ll be honest with her, so I told her that I liked him and that I was so sorry. We had a row. I’d just like to point out me and this girl were close. I hate myself. I fucked up a relationship, a friendship and everything happy in my life. I don’t deserve to be happy because this girl loves this guy. But he likes me and I like him.
This whole thing is my fault. All of it and I deserve to die because of what I’m putting her through. Bearing in mind I don’t want to hurt her….
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You hardly deserve to die because of something that minuscule. Don’t overreact.
while i do agree with the above comment, i hardly think the appropriate way to convince you of otherwise is to trivialize your problem. but sweety, it will be okay. i promise. it always will be okay. take a few deep breaths, try to clear your head of that problem. just focus on the love you have for the two of them, and go to sleep. i pray that when you wake up, you have your answer of what to do, but if not, that’s okay too. if she really loves you, she will eventually understand. if i were you, i would stay away from him for a little while so you can figure things out, and give her some time to breathe. try to stay positive, beautiful human.
while i do agree with the above comment, i hardly think the appropriate way to convince you of otherwise is to trivialize your problem. but sweety, it will be okay. i promise. it always will be okay. take a few deep breaths, try to clear your head of that problem. just focus on the love you have for the two of them, and go to sleep. i pray that when you wake up, you have your answer of what to do, but if not, that’s okay too. if she really loves you, she will eventually understand. if i were you, i would stay away from him for a little while so you can figure things out, and give her some time to breathe. try to stay positive, beautiful human.
There are other reasons why I want to die this just happens to be the tip of the iceberg. I’ve talked to both of them and both have said it’s not my fault but I can’t help feeling that it is. My friend is being rushed to hospital as she took an overdose and it is in fact all my fault. How she says it isn’t I don’t know. I feel so guilty and horrible. I told them both that I would avoid them and they both say they don’t want that to happen but I can’t think of anything else to do…..
You dont deserve to die…you dont need to punish yourself either..it was hurtful,yes,but you can rectify the situation.i Was just discussing this exact situation couple days ago-poaching we use to call it.Dating a friends x is fucked up..very upsetting.He broke up because he wanted to be with you which makes it even worse.If you and he had got together months later, it would still be poaching, but it may have been more bearable for her. As it is ,its a huge betrayal.IThe right thing to do is to not be with him and to draw close to the offended friend.Make amends to her,and be there for her. Tell her honestly that it was a mistake and you will not be seeing him.That it was not in any way worth hurting her over and youre deeply sorry. Its hard to not be selfish and to steer clear of someone when youre powerfully attracted to them, but it is the right thing to do.Shes saying its not your fault, to try and alleviate your feelings of guilt,but it is very clear that she felt seriously fucked up over the betrayal from both you and him.You made a mistake, but you need not suffer and die because of it. I was not a good friend to someone who I cared very much for,and I selfishly got together with someone she had been seeing.Its a regret .I wish I couldve been a better or stronger person.It wasnt the first time id done something like that,either. Forgive yourself,my dear,because you did not act maliciously-just recklessly /selfishly. As humans we are prone to this stuff-but you learn from it and you dont do the same thing over again.We grow from these mistakes.
You are a sweet person,and obviously terribly upset over the mess thats been made.Please be kind to yourself now,and extend yourself the same care and support you want to give her…Your feelings are valid,as are anyones who feels pain and sadness and despair,but when you have cleaned up your part in the mess,you will feel better.