I’m typing this here because I have no one to talk to. I happened to read a post with a situation similar to mine. I’m not alone. I don’t live alone. But I am alone. I cry a lot because I don’t feel good about myself. I’m tired. Nothing traumatic happened in my life. I was raised by strict God-fearing parents and I have two sisters. I don’t want to blame the way I feel on the way i was raised. I was homeschooled., but unlike most kids and teenagers, I didn’t really have any friends. I’m an adult now. I don’t even have a handful of friends. I live with a friend whose cool and sweet, but I still feel so alone. My older sister is my best friend and i used to talk to her about things on my mind. She just recently had a baby which makes a family of 7 for her. I feel like i don’t want to bother her because she’s busy w/family. Why should she have to care about what is going on with me? I’m close to my mom but not close enough to talk to her. I’ve known the friend i live with for 9 years, but I can’t talk to her either. I feel like God has way too many important things to be concerned with then to give a **** about me. So who do i talk to? My feelings are conflicted. Sometimes, i want to go away, far far away..disappear. Other times, i wish i at least have a few friends to go on a trip with or have a girls night out, then other times, I don’t want to be bothered. I feel stuck. I’m tired of existing. Suicide isn’t the answer. Its a sin. It’s murder. So if i try that, that will just add to the list of sins i already have. We don’t ask to be here. We’re here because we have no other choice but to live and suck it up. Let’s not forget selfishness. If i did away with myself, my family and friend will suffer. I’m a kind, considerate person so i can’t do that. But I’m tired. I was once told when i survived a car accident with my family years ago, “God has a plan for you.” Really? I flew out the back window of my family’s van. I stopped breathing in the ER. Why wasn’t that it for me? I was told you should never question Him, but i can’t help but wonder, why wasn’t that it for me? Then I stop to think, maybe the plan He had for me got screwed up somehow when I veered off course somewhere along the line -made a huge mistake, traveled down the wrong road, then that plan got squashed. I did not ask to be here. I have no purpose. I feel useless about 99% of the time. I’m just tired.
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Yup, I’m tired too. Sooooo exhausted by this life. …Sorry, I cannot relate to your feelings about God, so I’ll try to speak to your friends issue.
As for finding playmates: Go to MeetUp events. These aren’t sleazy, hookup gatherings (although there probably is one for it). There are tons of groups, easily found online. Join several for others who share your interests. Everyone there is participating for the same reason as you: social connection. Even if you never make a BFF to do individual stuff with, you’ll always have group opps. And having these loser connections sometimes can be better than participating with a group like your church where you might feel too personally judged.
Then, find a counselor to talk out the other stuff, not family or friends.