So today I’m suppose to go on a date with this guy I think I like. But I’m freaking out. I’m terrified that he’ll turn out like my exes and try pressuring me into doing things or try to take advantage of me. There’s also the fact of what if I don’t like him as much as I think I do. And what if I screw this up. Like whenever I have a a good thing going I do something to mess it up. I’m so scared for today. It’s also my first date ever.
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Hmm, well if you can avoid tripping and falling in the mud like I did on my first date (the junior prom, no less), I think you can call it a success.
Seriously, if you like him I’m sure he wouldn’t be such a jerk that he would do anything to wreck your 1st date. Just wear sensible shoes and avoid mud puddles 🙂
Lol thank you! This seriously made me smile.
It’s your first date ever, yet you have exes? In my experience, worrying about possibly screwing things up will lead you to screw things up by not trying to not screw them up (I.E. avoiding them). The only way you can /not/ screw it up is by trying, but there’s no guarantee it’ll go that way. Still, it’s much better odds than not trying at all – that’s guaranteed to screw things up. As for your fear of him trying to get you to do things you don’t want to do, well, tasers and pepper spray are available in most states.
I knew my exes would do something. So I never went on a date and I should get some pepper spray
If you can afford some, that might help relieve some of your worries. Just make a resolution that you will stick to your guns about what you’re willing/unwilling to do and you should be fine. Pepper spray’s just an added insurance policy.
It suck with the word no.. I’ve found out that it doesn’t work too well. They’ll still beg and make you feel like shit for saying no or they’ll keep trying until they get what they want…
Make them feel like shit for ignoring you the first time you said no. Guys are pigs. Sometimes they need a good blast of pepper spray to keep them in line.
Haha I’m picturing some respectable young man coming to the door with flowers and before even saying hello she pepper sprays him. Hey I’m all for that if it’s what it takes to get some respect :p
Yeah, men (especially hormone-raging young men) can be real trouble. And it may not even be outright force. A good “playa” can manipulate the situation in sneaky ways.
Unbroken, have you thought of going to a real public place, maybe having some of your friends “accidentally” meet up and join you so you have some backup?
My 1st date was a group thing and it made me feel a lot more comfortable. I uh just wish one of my stupid friends had warned me about that tree stump before I planted my face in the mud lol
If you aren’t comfortable & they continue to beg, then they don’t or won’t respect you and they don’t deserve your company.
At your age group dates & public places are probably the best.
Well, don’t let past experiences ruin a new one. You always need to be wary, but don’t write them off before they get a chance to impress. But, like Xanadu, said, pepper spray isn’t a bad idea.
I’ve been letting my past experiences ruin everything. Hell my ex boyfriend still tries telling me who I can’t date. And he gets mad at me when I have a new boyfriend.
Salt, we went to the movies. Which was public. Thank fully he didn’t try anything. And knowing me I would do the pepper spray thing lol