I think that a lot of our hate towards ourselves comes from the comparison game that we play. Facebook and instagram and tumblr. All of the images and the posts and the videos we see of peoples lives on these sites are luxurious and “better than ours”. We compare ourselves so much to these people…..
“oh, she’s so pretty, why can’t I be that pretty”
“oh, she’s so skinny, why can’t I be that thin”
“oh they are skydiving”
“oh they have a huge house” ……… so on and so forth
We are all constantly comparing ourselves to the people that are just like us, people. We have no idea how hard their lives
may be, really they just want to portray an illusion to us all, to avoid the rumours of their depression going on or maybe it took them nine times to actually get a photo of the whole family smiling or maybe that girl actually has an eating disorder, or
maybe that utterly gorgeous girl is being abused by her douchebag bf.
Because really, all of these people are human just like us, there lives aren’t perfect, they only post the good parts, and so do you, so do I.
What do you think fuels our hate towards ourselves?
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Yeah you’re right. Almost every reason I have to kill myself is an inferiority complex to the people I see around me
Naw that’s not true. It’s because you lost momentum years ago in creating yourself to being a better you. As I did too for many reasons.. but you can’t look around this beautiful world and hate on the beauty of it, it’s all there to inspire us.. but like I said somewhere along the way we lost our momentum.. and now wer stuck in a rut. Out of those 5 factors I listed below.. how many of them for you are fullfilled at this moment?
What 5 factors?
I don’t hate the world. Earth is the most amazing treasure in the universe. I hate humans that inhabit and ultimately are destroying the earth.
Things that fuel people to hate themselves? Definitely the things you mentioned above, but also things like: feeling like there is no way out, bullying, people judging others, being worried what others will think of you, ‘not able to do anything’ right, constant ‘mistakes’…..
Why are people focussing on how people look like so much? In the media people are conditioned to feel they must look a certain way to be attractive. It might include needing to buy certain products, services, etc, just to feel attractive enough.
if media could focus on intelligence instead, and not how people look like, of course, to some people, being ‘attractive’ is part of looks. But in my eyes they must be intelligent to be attractive in any way. Anyway media should focus on not looks, but the person, how they can improve themselves, and make them feel good about how they look like already. Seeing all this shit makes people feel worthless, and leads to dangerous things like eating disorders. How can people improve? Well that could be broad… But for a start, people should be supported, and feel like they are worth something. They shouldn’t be told they need to buy shit or look a certain way to be accepted
people are wearing masks to feel accepted by others, because if they really opened up, these people would just shun them away, or judge and/or bully them. That’s a sad world… Alot of people do make their lives look better then they really are. It would be great if people were able to show who they really were, what problems are happening in their lives… without being judged etc
sorry for the tangent…
I agree. Some people are lucky and avoid things through out their lives that make them stupid.. like drugs and negative people/actions.. but it’s because those intelligent people do things everyday that make them happy thus keeping them intelligent. If we sit around and dwell, feel depressed.. and don’t do actions to make us happier.. well it slowly kills us.. makes us weak and dumb.. and leads to a lower quality of life..
Somehow and someway, all of us on the site are doing something wrong everyday in life to keep us depressed… unfortunatley… a curse..
That’s one of the main reasons i tend to avoid social media (even if it’s the equivalent to social suicide nowadays). Lots of people treat themselves like they are a brand/product in order to be attractive to the rest, and think that by showing you (or bragging about) their “happiness” they have more “likeable points” or whatever. I assume it’s only natural considering that whenever you look, somebody is trying to sell something…
Because we didn’t get our shit in order is why we hate ourselves. Human life consists of roughly 5 factors we need to get in order to live a happy life. Not in importance order..
#1) health. If your not eating healthy and exercising you will feel like shit and makes you dumb.. simple. People like healthy looking people, they are attracted to that.
#2) family and friends. The need of a loving supporting family and vice versa. Positive friends that inspire you and not negative friends that lead you into trouble. The negative friends I chose to hang around got me into alot of trouble.. you become who you hang around. . If they are into drugs.. you may try it too.. happened to me.
#3)career and money. We need money to survive. We need to work and be productive and supply a service to the world.. which is why having a career that you love that makes money is one of the most important factors in modern human civilization… 10000 hours at a job you hate doesn’t help yiu grow or feel happy does it? 10000 hours at a career that you love makes you grow and also puts food on the table, shelter, vehicles, clothes, trips etc.. no work, no money, no food, unhappy.
#4) love. The best feeling in the world.. intimate relationship with a partner..sex feels amazing, time spent with someone you love is cherished and memories are for ever.. families are crested, children are born..
#5) solving problems. Everyone in this world has problems.. it’s how they handle it and how fast they handle them. If you don’t handle them they get bigger and create more problems.. the quicker yiu handle them the less they are and the happier you are..
Understand this, if you have 5/5 factors handled you are a happy person in this world and suicide does not exist in the mind. As each factor is not fullfilled the more unhappy yiu become, thus hating yourself.
Now, see how many of these factors are full filled in your life.
For me.
#1) I neglected my health.. i am very un healthy, smokd to much pot and cig, didn’t exercise and don’t eat healthy.
#2) I have an amazing family.. had amazing friends.. but I let negative friends in and learned bad habits thus screwing my life up. But I do have great family.
#3) dropped out of college, lost my mind and didn’t obtain my career job.. and have had nightmare jobs ever since. . Work half the year thus not making that much money.
#4) never been in love because my mind was on pot, and was to shy to make the right moves and the right girls. Also my shitty jobs had no girls there so I wasnt putting myself out there enough.
#5) I let my problems overwhelm me, and kept putting them aside and they built up and exploded in my face… never solved em.
I know this is all very vague but it’s true.. need a balanced life to be happy.
So, I am .5/5 = suicidal lol
I like your perspective of people showing us only the “good” parts of their lives on social media. I too tend to forget that “these” people are real and suffer just as much as everybody else.
What I do question is why do we even bother with such outlets? Why do we need to show other what they don’t have but what we do, or what marvelous and exciting activity we are doing. Why do we feel the need to showcase and romanticize our mundane lives and post pictures of the crap food we are about to ingest. Why do we even tolerate to be the spectator of other people’s lives?
Ugh sorry…. I too am on a wild tangent.