hello 🙂
what bullying and would you consider this bullying?
alright. since the start of the year I have met these group of girls (I am a girl) who have made me felt very upset. I am quiet and shy and normally don’t speak up about these things. it first started when they just stared at me, they would laugh at me and try to humilate me. 2 weeks after I had met them they would speak really loudly bad things about me then laugh. it really hurt my reputation and now I have no friends. I was recovering from self harm and it made me want to harm myself even more but I managed to control myself. they always exclude me from things and when they do that they ask me why I’m not doing anything. most of the people I meet at my school do that whole thing where they ‘look at me and whisper and laugh’ or they’ll fight over who sits next to me. most of my teachers treat me differently and I’m not sure why. before all this I was just a normal person who had a little incidents here and there. I’m really not sure what to do and I can slowly feel myself becoming angrier and sad. should I be telling someone of a higher authority this? if so what should I say
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I’ve been sitting here staring at my screen trying to figure out what to tell you. I went through a lot of bullying in my youth for approximately 10 years. It abruptly stopped right after the police showed up at my house in 11th grade because my best friend at the time was so worried about me that she contacted a suicide hotline. She had reason to be. It was a small school and I imagine word got around.
That was so many years ago but it still affects me. I still have nightmares sometimes. I still hear the taunting. I still think of how people treated me, even people that didn’t know me. It’s like I had some sort of sign on me. Sometimes there are places on my head that still hurt when I remember the worst thing they ever did.
I don’t know what to tell you but don’t just take it. Don’t let them have control over you or it continues to linger with you. It’s haunting. I don’t want you to go through that. Fighting back may not be the answer (as that seems to make things worse anyway), but do something. Don’t wilt and die when you are so young or it becomes so hard to try and live later in life. It’s like I still have a sign on me, but now it just says “already dead, don’t bother”.
I wish you the best. I really do. I hope things get better for you. Take care.
And yes, I think it is bullying. If one or more people are deliberately making you feel distressed so that you have psychological (even if not physical) trauma, that is bullying.
hello copelessness,
thank you replying. I hope all will become better, I am scared of not recovering from the past in the future. I am also stuck for words as well, thank you for your advice
Well, if you take steps to stop it, hopefully it will feel like something you have conquered rather than something that has conquered you. That triumph over being wronged could then give you strength for the future.