Kinda correlates with the question, “Is it better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved before”?
Maybe the best approach is to learn and understand everything is temporary. Nothing really last forever. But with each end brings a possibility for a new beginning. There’s hope with this idea.
Appreciate what you have now, so when it’s gone, you can let go and move on to something better.
I think that having friends and knowing they will leave you is better because they will actually be your real friends, when they leave try to contact them even if they are far away..
I think this well depend on the individual. For the longest time, I’ve always been a loner. I never had any close friends growing up. The few people that did become close friends, I always ended up pushing them away. I think I was subconsciously protecting myself from being vulnerable to anyone. Its also for this reason that I’ve never had a real relationship. Whenever I think I’ve falling for someone, my defense mechanism takes over and I get as far away from the person as possible.
This has protected me from feeling much pain, up to a point where I don’t think I feel much for anyone anymore. But it has also brought great loneliness. I cannot say which I would prefer, because both can be painful.
I think a balance between the two is ideal, but for some people like us, it is not easy, if even possible.
I’d say that having friends that you will lose is better than no friends.
They may have left you, but you would have some great memories and they could teach you more about yourself, making it easier to attract and keep friends in the future.
Some deal with loss a lot, while others won’t. Its all about learning really. Learn from those friends and use what you know.
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It’s a double edged sword I suppose.
Kinda correlates with the question, “Is it better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved before”?
Maybe the best approach is to learn and understand everything is temporary. Nothing really last forever. But with each end brings a possibility for a new beginning. There’s hope with this idea.
Appreciate what you have now, so when it’s gone, you can let go and move on to something better.
I think that having friends and knowing they will leave you is better because they will actually be your real friends, when they leave try to contact them even if they are far away..
I think this well depend on the individual. For the longest time, I’ve always been a loner. I never had any close friends growing up. The few people that did become close friends, I always ended up pushing them away. I think I was subconsciously protecting myself from being vulnerable to anyone. Its also for this reason that I’ve never had a real relationship. Whenever I think I’ve falling for someone, my defense mechanism takes over and I get as far away from the person as possible.
This has protected me from feeling much pain, up to a point where I don’t think I feel much for anyone anymore. But it has also brought great loneliness. I cannot say which I would prefer, because both can be painful.
I think a balance between the two is ideal, but for some people like us, it is not easy, if even possible.
I’d say that having friends that you will lose is better than no friends.
They may have left you, but you would have some great memories and they could teach you more about yourself, making it easier to attract and keep friends in the future.
Some deal with loss a lot, while others won’t. Its all about learning really. Learn from those friends and use what you know.