Mastery is the term they use for acquired skills that are rewarding in my group therapy. I am 26 years old and have literally acquired zero skills. Getting into something and really learning it requires a inspired or motivated person. The thing is, no goals really motivate me, and I am unable to find the inspiration within myself to accomplish anything.
I explore things I might like to learn, and then I attempt to immurse myself in the content of the subject, and I quickly find myself overwhelmed. The overwhelming nature of the entire situation just discourages me. Maybe I don’t have the confidence in myself to believe I can actually learn the subjects, or maybe I just don’t see an end result. I can’t find joy in putting forth the effort because the rewards I get for putting in the time are so far in the future. Is this depression? Is this a lack of confidence? Am I simply defective, and lack the evolutionary drive to survive?
How is a person supposed to gain mastery in any subject if their personality doesn’t contain the elements that equate to a drive? Do I need to experience more pain in order to really push myself to learn a skill?
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Some people are motivated by goals, others by fear. Maybe you would be better off visualising what might happen if you don’t achieve something.
What is the thing you want to achieve?
To master anything you have to practice, practice practice. Whether it’s playing a musical instrument, driving, sports, or drinking other people under the table, you must put in countless hours of practice before you can become a master.
I guess you gotta find that one thing that really motivates you, then you must pursue it relentlessly. (Playing video games or chasing skirts probably won’t make you a lot of money – although becoming a master would be fun).
This post is like asking “what is the meaning of life”? Only you can answer that question for you. Think of life as a DIY project; others have written books with guidelines, suggestions, advice, etc., but ultimately you decide for yourself what makes doin’ time on this planet worth the effort.
Morris,
I am completely aware of these facts, I guess I am disheartened for many reason. I am intersted in many things. Most of them are too complex to know where to start. For the most part, the things I am interested in pursuing currently are all self taught skills, and there isn’t really anyone there to give me stepping stones to get started. That being said, I am just going to start doing a few things, and see how they pan out. So practice it shall be.
Another reason I get down about this topic has a lot to do with my tendency to give up at the moment I am overwhelmed. It results in me feeling immature and impatient. I am currently trying to work with these dynamics, and just keep coming back to a single project. It’s just quite a tedious frustrating process.
“I guess you gotta find that one thing that really motivates you, then you must pursue it relentlessly.” I guess I will find out if my current pursuit is for me if I am still working on it next week, haha.
Failing is a lot more common than succeeding. (Casinos wouldn’t stay in business if winners outnumbered losers).
Don’t let setbacks derail you. Expect failure and disappointment, anticipate losses. It will happen, it’s all part of the process.
Just keep doing your thing. Win or lose we’re all gonna die anyway, so don’t worry about setbacks too much. They’re temporary, just like the wins.
I am jeti
Like Yoda you are?
yes
Xcellente. Advice for young anthropophobia have you, Jedi Master?
the forse is strong with you
You be smoke less
And fund a woman then you grow up and have to give up some shit but life
That’s solid.
I’ve funded women before.