Hello, people reading this i have a huge problem and i need your advice. I am 17 years old and i have tried to commit suicide more then 5 times. Everytime something in my life goes wrong aall i think about is how to kill myself , but this time i might really do it. So i will be entering the 12th grade this year and there is a HUMONGOUS amount of pressure on me to go study abroud and get into a Great University, but the thing is i TOTALLY FAILED my international AS level examinations and those grades are really important to get into a University and i am too afraid to tell my family but they will find out once school starts and before they find out i want to commit suicide!! and how without pain.
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Having big dreams is good but you always should have a back up plan if case the things don’t go so well. Anyway don’t put yourself in to much pressure, try having fun sometimes.
i do have fun, but my only dream only way only thing that my parents want is for me to go into a good University. i cant fullfill it i just have to die :((( im soo scared
Been there. But if you dont like something you are not forced to do it because your parents say sow.
First of all please don’t. Going to a University might seem like a HUGE deal now and I know how stressful test scores can be. And if you totally just bombed it then maybe its not for you. Or maybe you should just take a break and focus on other things other than education because you have your whole life to learn what YOU want to learn. Don’t let time control you and stress you out. If you feel like you need to take some summer vacation before you go to University then go for it. no one can stop you. Not even your parents. And if they don’t understand then sit down and just talk to them, and if they love you they’ll understand. You just never know until you try. But one thing is for certain is that if you commit suicide it just eliminates the possibilities of it ever getting better. You’ll never know what your parents will think and you will never know how much you could learn. Suicide isn’t the solutions. Then when your graduating or whatever youll look back and see how strong you’ve become.
thank you so much for understanding i wish my family was like you , but they wont let me get a gap year or anything their too strict :(((( i failed them and i just wanna hide away and die. i want to run away but what will i do i have nothing!!
It’s better confronting things (depending on what they are of course) than putting them off. In this case, your parents will find out sooner or later, so it’s better that they know it from you, and their reaction could be worse the longer you take. Keep one thing in mind tho: you’re not a machine, and we all fail. Even perfect plans can crumble for ridiculous reasons, because nothing is certain in life. Heck, at times you study like a madman for an exam and you get awful grades, and the next time you don’t study at all and do great, it’s a freaking lottery.
You are still really young and it’s understandable that you are scared, but there are other options. You could still get into an university eventually or you might end up doing something entirely different, but there’s really other options and life goes on. There’s people that get into uni that get their career and still can’t get a job, and viceversa, so i’d say try being honest with your parents (even if it’s difficult) and then go from there. Good luck!
thank you for your advice. yes i know suicide is such a stupid thing but im just soo scared i just told my little sister i wanna die and she cried soo much i dont know if i can make everyone so miserable like that, but i just dont know what to do
You said it yourself, she’s your little sister…. it’s obvious she’d be upset. Really, try talking with your parents before they hear things from someone else. Whatever happens when you tell them can’t be worse than death (if you think about it rationally).
Whats the worst that can happen if you tell your parents? They get angry? Then what? You can retake exams, you could look at other options like working in an area close to your uni course and then reapply when you have experience in that discipline perhaps?
I know this is probably a huge deal right now but trust me, the clock keeps ticking, feelings fade and reality is still there. You have options, even if they dont seem great right now, you might find yourself a totally new direction that is way better than your original plan.
I’m sure that just reads like far fetched crap but its possible! Stay positive 🙂
awwww thank youu all :)) i will really concider all your advice:)