I don’t understand why individuals have this drive to have “life” insurance. The person paying into it is going to be dead by the time it can be used. Let’s be honest – you can only give money to the living.
I understand that the insurance is mostly to help pay for funeral expenses. but why must we have a traditional funeral for our lost loved ones? Why not have a free get together to remember them buy?
Now for cemeteries – why even have them in them in the first place? They take up space that can be used for something tangible. Gotta do something with the dead. Why not cremate them all? Also I don’t understand why people “visit”the dead at cemeteries. The dead are dead! Your not visiting them, nor can they here you. Plus there six feet under with a stone on top.
In closing – you cannot help nor hurt, feel sorry for, or visit the dead. Only a living body matters. We may morn the loss of a dead person, but we must realize that they are now dead with no conscious or life.
Thats my personal opinion, what’s yours?
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Well as usual my opinion is the opposite of yours. I believe wholeheartedly the dead are more “alive” than we are. They hear and see it all. They hear our thoughts about them and desire to interact with us. My twin Dyana, my grandmère Lucille, and my highschool friend Eric can all hear me and me them.
Man, this world goes on such bullshit evidence. We’ve been conditioned to herald physical senses more than metaphysical ones as having more stock when it’s the other way around. This world is backwards and science, rather thsn being a team player, has taken an adverserial stance on spirituality which is sad. Not just spirituality but reality as it truly is.
Nothing but respect, but I don’t see any evidence of anything but anything metaphysical or spiritual about our existence. Can you give me some examples?
Examples eh, well my journey with the spirit is very personal so I will only share things I’ve experienced on my own time and at the right moment. With that said I encourage you to explore and ask the “universe” or “subconscious” or your own fuckin’ label to begin to prove your hypothesis wrong. It might take time but I guarantee you will agree with me in a couple years – being that you are still around of course. Which is obviously my wish for you.
For the most part, I agree with what you’re saying. I don’t see the sense in dressing in all black and having a suckfest, but that’s my lack of long-term emotions talking. When I go, it’s either cremation or buried in the woods naked. I want my body to go back to nature after I’m gone; clothes, casket and all that crap just gets in the way of my body’s reintegration into the planet.
I’d like there to be some kind of gathering for the people that want to remember me, with all my favorite foods and the top rated tracks from my Ipod playing. Just a bit of fun for the people I leave behind. I’ve had similar thoughts about cemetaries (and golf courses). Blame the religious people; there are a lot of them and they want to somewhere to cry over their toothpicks (sopranos reference).
Remember, only the living can want.
Cool man. I want to record a movie soon of me saying all the shit i wanna do in my life. And a goodbye message for all and encourage them to celebrate my transition. Then have them look at my life and see if I accomplished it all.
Thumbs up.
Funerals are for the living, not for the deceased. Friends and family get together to remember somebody who died. The guest of honor probably has no idea that the funeral is even happening. It’s like throwing a sad party for a dead guy.
Life insurance is also for the living, not for the dead. People need money while they’re alive, so if a bread winner with dependents kicks the bucket, someone’s gotta feed the dependents of the dearly departed.
I agree that burial plots take up valuable real estate. When my dad died it cost about $12k to cover his final expenses. Dying can be a costly event for the living; I personally have already pre-paid for my cremation so that no one else will get stuck with a bill. (Seems like the considerate thing to do, ya know? I’m not gonna incur an unnecessary financial burden onto others). You’d be surprised if you found out how much funeral homes make; it’s a lucrative business with an never ending stream of customers.
One of my reasons for not dying yet is I don’t want to have my family go through with paying for the the funeral etc. personally I would rather be cremated but since most of family is buried I’m sure my family would want that. *sigh. And Im not able to pay for it myself. Not even dying is easy in this life lol
We commemorate the dead to remember that life is fragile and can be easily lost. It gives our life a meaning. Even if life itself seems meaningless, I try to believe that there is a great plan behind all this suffering. If there wasn’t, wouldn’t this world be all about madness?
I understand your viewpoint but……
I) agreed on cemeteries and the space that is used, plus the time and energy maintaining them. An alternative to a cemetery is being buried in a sacred forest. It’s a relatively “new” concept. The sacred forest acts as a wildlife preserve…. there is minimal maintenance and much of it is kept in a very natural state. When you’re buried you are buried in a “pod” with your option of tree seeds… mine is preferred to be oak. The tree acts as your headstone.
Ii) life insurance is more than just to pay for funeral… it is intended to maintain a certain quality of life for any dependants that remain (children for example). When life insurance is paid out the goal would be to invest the insurance proceeds into some sort of annuity thereby resulting in regular payments to the survivors. If no dependants then life including has no real purpose other than burial costs.
Iii). People visit grave sides as a way of coping. I know that the people that they are visiting are dead…. but I can’t justify in saying that they are wrong in doing so if it finds them comfort…. comfort can mean a lot to people.
I know where you’re coming from…. no argument…. just a different viewpoint.
I would flip out if anyone tried to do a funeral for me. I want to just disappear and never be thought of again.
I’m leaving lots of life insurance for my son as I hope he has a better life than I did. We do not even speak anymore.