Im a sophomore in college. Please excuse the lack of correct punctuation and grammar because I really dont care.
First my parents are having problems. My dad was an alcoholic when i was younger now he quit drinking but is verbally abusive to my mother which may cause them to divorce.
Its hard to focus in classes because im depressed so my grades are reflecting this.
I had a friend that dumped me over me finally putting boundaries down so she couldnt use me anymore, this same girl sees the same therapist i see. She dumped me as a friend when i wouldn’t upgrade her computer to windows 10.
My therapist has had poor boundaries and has invited me to her house once for a party and ce to fix her computer. I have also ridden in her vehicle to go pick her daughter up from school. I have seen this therapist for years and care very deeply for her but to find out that all of this was a fake just to develop a theraputic relationship with me. I mean isnt there other ways of developing a relatiinship without making a client think you are friends with them.
What hurts is kniwing the other friend i used to have is still seeing the therapist and the therapist is her friend and has taken sides with the other person and not validated my feelungs because the therapist said that my part was that i was half way in and half way out of the relatiinship which is bullshit those words are the other persons words she dont know what truly all happened there. She has no idea what happened in my relatiinship with the other person. The other person wanted to not answer my call and texts but only when it convenienced her and to stop by unannounced. I didnt do that to her so yeah id rather her call and yeah i did distance myself because of this but why must the therapist pass judgement? I feel my only true part in this was nott the fact i was in or out but that i didnt have better boundaries.
The therapist is even taking care of all if her stuff if something were to happen to her as she is in her 50s. I thought therapists were supposed to have better boundaries.
I hope this makes sense… Im done with therapy for good she has ruined me.
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Your Dad is still an alcoholic. He may not be drinking but the disease remains. He needs therapy or a twelve step group.
Yes, your therapist has a poor sense of boundaries. Good diagnosis. However they are not your friend. They are your employee. It is their job to work for you. Because of a conflict of interest you need to fire them and hire another.
Not installing Windows 10 on someone’s PC is an act of love. 😉 It is sad your friend can’t understand this.
Your therapist has not ruined you. It is natural to feel that way, though. Once again I strongly suggest finding a new therapist and moving away from this sticky situation.