I find it extremely difficult to actually make decent real life friends.
I’m 15 years old and all the “Real life friends” ive had up until this point have either used me or don’t care about me and make fun of me.
I made another post about most of my life and in that post I explained how I had cancer from when I was 9 up until I was 14. most of the people I know call me cancer boy and some people act so scared of me because they might catch my disease even though it is not contagious (obviously) and I do not have it any more.
they act as if im some disgusting disease
I’m that one kid that’s invited over sometimes and when I am invited its just so everyone can make fun of me. its not like there making fun of each other, its just me.
I hate it so much and its just not fair. I would do anything for a real friend but I do not know where to start.
It also dose not help that I’m very shy and sensitive. and people know I wont fight back so its easy for them to hurt me so much.
Thx for reading it would really help me out if you guys could give some tips or something
Those people are… there isn’t even a word. That’s horrible.
I think the best possible way to make friends is by joining clubs/groups. A lot of people go to things like that to meet people. Then you can just smile and see if someone responds, or talk to someone else there on their own. You never know which will just be casual friendships and which will be deeper, but it gives you a chance to meet likeminded people and hopefully make a good friend as well.
Totally agree with trix, joining a group is the best option! :]
If he is shy though, it’s hard to get to know people even by getting out. You just stand there and no one wants to talk to you, or you try to be bold and talk to someone, but you are so awkward that they just want to be somewhere else.
I’m not saying it’s not a good option. Hopefully it will work for him. If nothing else, he might meet people who will treat him nicer than the people he knows now.
Yes, it’s very hard. But even if you can’t go up and speak to someone or you’re awkward, people in that kind of environment are usually quite welcoming.
Sometimes… I’ve had a lot of bad experiences I guess. But I think you are right about it being the best way to meet people.
Two words: Latin Club.
Seriously, school clubs helped me make friends big time. In 9th grade I went to a new school didn’t know one single person. I joined the Latin Club, Wargaming Society, Chess Club, Drama Club, Pep Squad, Computer Club, Poetry Mopers, and The Poke-A-Hobo Association. Some were stupid and some were OK and at least I was in a situation where I knew there was at least one good thing to talk about with like minded people. Many friendships grew out of that.
One friendship has stood the test of time. My friend, Steve and I, were both horribly socially awkward kids in the Drama Club. Not at all that similar except for a love of old comedies. With that foundation we forged a friendship that’s lasted 30 years. We’ve moved, married, divorced, argued, drank, smoked, stole each other’s girlfriends, cried, and supported each other through good and bad. All this happened because we were both in the same club and I laughed when he did an imitation of Curly from the Three Stooges.
Also tutoring. The other kids that tutor people tend to be less judgemental and more socially progressive. You might even make friends with those that you tutor. When I was your age… you have to say that out loud with a really creaky old man voice… When I was your age I was a wiz and computers and the school’s star basketball forward was failing his computer class so I was assigned to tutor him. Man, he was so grateful for my help that he became my unofficial bodyguard for six months – and boy I needed it. He probably saved my life because preppies can be vicious with those social-status blades they wield.
Ok, now a realistic reply.
Get used to it kid! People are SHIT!!
True friends are hard to come by. It seems that people are really only your friend when you have something to offer them. Once you have nothing for them, they’re gone.
You’re already on a suicide site. So if you decide to do it, take those fuckers with you!!!
Agree, except for the ‘get used to it’ part. Nobody should have to ‘get used to it’.
People are SHIT, yes, but I will never get used to it.
and i hope the OP can actually find some friends who care, but truth is you’ll never really know who cares. We are not crystal balls.
I have zero real life friends, although I am not allowed outside to do that really… and maybe I don’t give a damn anyway.
These people who are saying these things are truly horrible people. I don’t know if I can even call them ‘people’. Remember, it is never your fault. You are shy; well lots of people are, being shy… I’m thinking some people are ‘shy’ because of how people treat them. If people were treated PROPERLY maybe we could actually show ourselves.
you don’t deserve this at all. I do believe most people are cold, harsh, cruel and horrible, but good people *do* exist. Sometimes it takes forever to find them though. Maybe it will happen when you least expect it. Who knows.
If you talk to anyone else who says this crap you mentioned in your post, please do cut them off for your sake. Could try talking to people online, but I know its not quite the same as real life, but its usually more comfortable to be yourself… and typing you can think before you write something a bite more. And people online can be removed with a click, easier said than done of course…
while some people may seem nice, and yes I hope you meet some nice people, I would never let down my guard. Please don’t trust people too easily. Even after years, people can turn out to be crap. you just got to be so careful….