Two of my friends are hanging out and going to the pool tomorrow and I need to decide quickly if I’m coming with them.
The only thing is I don’t really want to go. It’s not that I have something on, it’s just that I don’t want to go because I am depressed.
But then I feel like I have to go with them because one girl has asked us so many times to hang out and none of us are able to come on that day.
I think I would go if we were just hanging out but I don’t really want to go to the pool and swim and whatever.
I know this isn’t a huge decision or anything, I just want a little help decided, what do you guys think I should do?
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I live my life in my head. Up there, it’s perfect. I’m perfect.
IRL, I suck. Socially inept. I don’t have any friends because of this. When people ask me to hang out, I go over it in my head. I let everything play out in my head first, it’s perfect, then I look at me and realise I can’t. So I don’t. I never do anything, no matter how harmless it may be. Depression sucks.
Anyway, with that said, do what you feel is right for you. Who knows? You might have a good time. Make memories. But, if you really don’t want to, then don’t. You might make it awful for your friends.
If it’s the pool that you really don’t want to go to, then suggest something else.
I always dont want to do things that im invited to. I too think it over. But sometimes when i go anyway, im glad that i did go. So you might enjoy it
I’ve totally been there. It’s hard to socialize when depressed (it can be hard, at least for an introvert, even when not depressed). Have you socialized recently? It’s really hard, but sometimes it’s good to force yourself to go out, especially if you’ve been spending a lot of time alone.
Are your friends doing anything after going to the pool? Maybe you could meet up with them after and just hang out.
I make myself go even when I don’t want to. I know I’m in really bad shape when I give myself permission to decline an invitation then I begin the slide down. So really I make myself go because I know not to is really bad news.