I just dont want poeple to find this and find out where i am. My friend is moving in to Canada in 9 months.. i might be able to live with her. So i can either wait here, for 9 months, or move… and live a new life. Because the one i have is pointless and i hate everything about it. I have a house, a roof above me, and food… so i don’t know if moving would be best, as there is a high chance ill be homeless.
hey I’m kind of in a similar situation, while I’d much rather die, sometimes i think of going to meet my online boyfriend overseas, and if I leave i would be worried i would end up homeless too maybe. I live with my parents, i think you do as well?
Yeah it is, its not only money that is holding me back. It would be a very stressful process, i mean, even getting out to the airport seems stressful. What if everything that can go wrong does go wrong? Then i am fucked…
i would need a cab to get there, and it cost 400 us dollars to do that.. Plus, theres no easy way to move to a different country without family or marriage.. So i kind of accepted that idea was impossible.
he says he will but never does… I wonder if he can actually travel such a long distance with the stroke and emphysema – but he doesn’t use an oxygen tank
work can be an avenue if you have an in demand job, or a business, but i think its rather tedious. I don’t know much about it. You can stay 12 months here with a working holiday visa – but you are coming here to see your friends, not to work. There are also visitors visas
but this all involves paperwork, fees and visits to an embassy which is inconvenient
do you need to be 21 to get it without consent? Here you need to be 18 but since i live with my parents I’m just going to need to make up some reason to get the passport, I’m not allowed otherwise… I’ll need a taxi :/
same as me,, i don’t need their consent, but i dont have any way of getting it without them.. and i dont have anyone else that would help. Cab is too much, the passport place is so far.
From what i read… wait it out and while waiting it out try to figure out a way of getting out of there in a realistic way (in case everything else fails). If you move now like you say you might end up homeless, and you mention your friend is in the same situation… not to be a party popper but there’s a huge chance she fails too if she moves away in a rush, and since she’s even younger than you… yup, that could turn real bad, real fast.
A lot can happen, in 9 months.. thats such a long time.. I’m scared to think about it. I’m just tired of living under my parents. I just don’t have any way out right now, besides doing the extreme.. I’m really shy so, i don’t have any friends to move in with or anything
I agree with that, and i can see myself in your situation because i’ve been there at some point in my life (more than once), but the thing is, if you want to get out of there for good you have to do it wisely, otherwise you might end up having to go back and things might be even worse than they are now.
I completely understand. I was hoping for something to happen.. a homeless shelter, someone taking me in.. a community of homeless.. live in a car.. a small isolated place on the beach that has some kind of rain shelter
My backup plan would be to off myself. But I’ve read 2 stories about N failing now, the white powder… used to off yourself. I’m not suggesting that you should off yourself if it doesn’t work out. I’ve been planning for months but its not changing a thing for me, doesn’t change the fact that i am a weakling, hate society, just want to be dead, that I’m poor, that i could get homesick..
maybe even my parents will find me at the airport and bring me back here and take my phone away, i know that’s a first world problem, but like they may cut all contact i have? Who knows
are you telling your parents that you want to travel and meet your friends? I only intend to write a note when i leave here, if i end up doing it… I don’t want to tell my parents because I’m worried they will make me cut contact with them, they tell me I should never ever ever meet people off the internet
they can’t know, they wouldn’t let me if they did.. and i was thinking of doing the same thing, leave a note or text or something so im not filed as a missing person.
The only thing I can say is think it through. Summer of 2015 I tried to hang myself and failed when my mom busted through the door. So I felt like taking a leap, I got a job and saved up at least $1000 and moved to New York (I moved out of the state). My father has family there and they let me live with them. I thought it would be great, but my life just got worst. Then I added school and loans and work on top of that. My own family treated me like I was no one to them. I had no-one but some support from advisors at school where they helped me with food. It can get really hard being on your own. I would say right now do whatever you can to save up. Map out your plan. I promised myself that I would either move or kill myself. I took a leap and ended up back with my mom. I wanted to die, sometimes I still want to die. However, I’m trying to find clarity and I pray that we all find that clarity. Do what is best for you. Life is too short to live for other people even family. Sorry for the long post
maybe you can put an ad on gumtree saying you will cook/clean etc in return for accommodation but you might get alot of assholes that way so I don’t think I suggest it…
or you could apply for jobs where you are now if that’s possible? save up more and leave
$2,500 isn’t going to last long, you’d have to apply for hundreds of jobs, well that’s the best way because you would prob have greater chances. Would also suggest handing in a resume to employers directly (i hate resumes and think they are stupid but they all want that…)
That would be great if you have a roommate. Just remember some places have fees, and some you might need 1st months rent and a security deposit. I pray that it all works out for you. I don’t mean to scare you, I just want you to be aware. It’ll work out, from what I’ve read you seem to have a pretty good head on your shoulders. Just make sure to have a safety net (cash) just in case. YOU GOT THIS. You’ve already taken the first step by seeking out help/advice. Let me know how everything goes
I just canceled my flight.. Got my 5.5 hundred dollars back.. I’ll probably go back there in a few months. Thank you, for your words. I think i might have a decent game plan now.
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Why nine months? What’s your situation?
what state are you in and where would you go
You have to weight in the pros and cons, it’s difficult to say which would be better with no idea of the situation.
Were are you and were do you wanna go? Im in the same boat maybe I can help
Do you have skype? Kik? email? I can talk to you on one of those
devinbelver@yahoo.com
devinx7 kik
pandabear2890 skype
I just dont want poeple to find this and find out where i am. My friend is moving in to Canada in 9 months.. i might be able to live with her. So i can either wait here, for 9 months, or move… and live a new life. Because the one i have is pointless and i hate everything about it. I have a house, a roof above me, and food… so i don’t know if moving would be best, as there is a high chance ill be homeless.
hey I’m kind of in a similar situation, while I’d much rather die, sometimes i think of going to meet my online boyfriend overseas, and if I leave i would be worried i would end up homeless too maybe. I live with my parents, i think you do as well?
unless you mean your parents are going to throw you out in 12 hours
How old are you? Its hard to move overseas.
they’re not, and technically, i have 5 days at very most to decide..
22
except in my case I’ll be relying on him for the money
Yeah it is, its not only money that is holding me back. It would be a very stressful process, i mean, even getting out to the airport seems stressful. What if everything that can go wrong does go wrong? Then i am fucked…
you have passports ect?
Not yet i will try and get it soon
Quite a gamble :/ is that what you really think you should do? What about him comming to you?
You are 400 miles away from the passport office?
i would need a cab to get there, and it cost 400 us dollars to do that.. Plus, theres no easy way to move to a different country without family or marriage.. So i kind of accepted that idea was impossible.
at least for now
he says he will but never does… I wonder if he can actually travel such a long distance with the stroke and emphysema – but he doesn’t use an oxygen tank
Thats scary.. that must be hard
work can be an avenue if you have an in demand job, or a business, but i think its rather tedious. I don’t know much about it. You can stay 12 months here with a working holiday visa – but you are coming here to see your friends, not to work. There are also visitors visas
but this all involves paperwork, fees and visits to an embassy which is inconvenient
I don’t believe you can apply for a visitor visa while here, phew, anyway its no wonder people overstay in countries!!!
really hard for me to get one without a car or my parents consent.. I’m stuck at the moment.
do you need to be 21 to get it without consent? Here you need to be 18 but since i live with my parents I’m just going to need to make up some reason to get the passport, I’m not allowed otherwise… I’ll need a taxi :/
same as me,, i don’t need their consent, but i dont have any way of getting it without them.. and i dont have anyone else that would help. Cab is too much, the passport place is so far.
Is your friend homless and how old are you?
or this
She is not, she is the exact same as me right now. Living wih her parents and not really enjoying life. Shy, anxious, and depression ect.
I’m 19. I believe she’s 17 or 18
I just emailed you if that ok ?
definitely!
From what i read… wait it out and while waiting it out try to figure out a way of getting out of there in a realistic way (in case everything else fails). If you move now like you say you might end up homeless, and you mention your friend is in the same situation… not to be a party popper but there’s a huge chance she fails too if she moves away in a rush, and since she’s even younger than you… yup, that could turn real bad, real fast.
A lot can happen, in 9 months.. thats such a long time.. I’m scared to think about it. I’m just tired of living under my parents. I just don’t have any way out right now, besides doing the extreme.. I’m really shy so, i don’t have any friends to move in with or anything
I guess i could sit and suffer.. I don’t know.. I need a reason to live.. and the thought of leaving this state made me think about so much freedom.
I agree with that, and i can see myself in your situation because i’ve been there at some point in my life (more than once), but the thing is, if you want to get out of there for good you have to do it wisely, otherwise you might end up having to go back and things might be even worse than they are now.
I completely understand. I was hoping for something to happen.. a homeless shelter, someone taking me in.. a community of homeless.. live in a car.. a small isolated place on the beach that has some kind of rain shelter
My backup plan would be to off myself. But I’ve read 2 stories about N failing now, the white powder… used to off yourself. I’m not suggesting that you should off yourself if it doesn’t work out. I’ve been planning for months but its not changing a thing for me, doesn’t change the fact that i am a weakling, hate society, just want to be dead, that I’m poor, that i could get homesick..
maybe even my parents will find me at the airport and bring me back here and take my phone away, i know that’s a first world problem, but like they may cut all contact i have? Who knows
Trust me, that is my backup plan. it always has been.
makes me think, why doesn’t my online boyfriend live near me? why don’t your friends live near you? it would be easier
Only get one shot at this, and it could be catastrophic..sorry I’m so negative, i always try to be ‘prepared’ for the worst
you’re fine. its because the internet exists and as amazing as it is, it puts us in impossible situations sometimes when me meet people through it.
are you telling your parents that you want to travel and meet your friends? I only intend to write a note when i leave here, if i end up doing it… I don’t want to tell my parents because I’m worried they will make me cut contact with them, they tell me I should never ever ever meet people off the internet
I will only write the note because i don’t want them to think that I’m missing
they can’t know, they wouldn’t let me if they did.. and i was thinking of doing the same thing, leave a note or text or something so im not filed as a missing person.
The only thing I can say is think it through. Summer of 2015 I tried to hang myself and failed when my mom busted through the door. So I felt like taking a leap, I got a job and saved up at least $1000 and moved to New York (I moved out of the state). My father has family there and they let me live with them. I thought it would be great, but my life just got worst. Then I added school and loans and work on top of that. My own family treated me like I was no one to them. I had no-one but some support from advisors at school where they helped me with food. It can get really hard being on your own. I would say right now do whatever you can to save up. Map out your plan. I promised myself that I would either move or kill myself. I took a leap and ended up back with my mom. I wanted to die, sometimes I still want to die. However, I’m trying to find clarity and I pray that we all find that clarity. Do what is best for you. Life is too short to live for other people even family. Sorry for the long post
i have 2.5 thousand. think i can get an apartment and find a job stably with that?..
maybe you can put an ad on gumtree saying you will cook/clean etc in return for accommodation but you might get alot of assholes that way so I don’t think I suggest it…
or you could apply for jobs where you are now if that’s possible? save up more and leave
$2,500 isn’t going to last long, you’d have to apply for hundreds of jobs, well that’s the best way because you would prob have greater chances. Would also suggest handing in a resume to employers directly (i hate resumes and think they are stupid but they all want that…)
well if you get a roommate that should greatly lower the rent i think
That would be great if you have a roommate. Just remember some places have fees, and some you might need 1st months rent and a security deposit. I pray that it all works out for you. I don’t mean to scare you, I just want you to be aware. It’ll work out, from what I’ve read you seem to have a pretty good head on your shoulders. Just make sure to have a safety net (cash) just in case. YOU GOT THIS. You’ve already taken the first step by seeking out help/advice. Let me know how everything goes
I just canceled my flight.. Got my 5.5 hundred dollars back.. I’ll probably go back there in a few months. Thank you, for your words. I think i might have a decent game plan now.