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Family crisis pt 2.

by lulu99

So i found this website last night and posted my first post about whats going on in my life right now and the advice and support from you guys really made me feel better so i thought i would give it another shot.  So I wrote a letter to my parents apologizing for everything i’ve done….trying to make amends and slowly start to see the light out of this dark situation.  I told my mom i wrote it, and she said to get her and my dad together and read it to them.  The only problem is, i was going to go downstairs last night and i heard my mom tell my dad that I want sit down and talk to them, and he said he won’t talk to me. And she said Your daughter wants to talk to you, she needs to talk to you, and he said, I don’t have a daughter anymore.  I am not the father to that girl.  I don’t know who she is but there is a stranger living in my house.  That broke my heart.  I don’t know what to do. I obviously can’t approach him after hearing that.  Should i just leave the note on his bed or something and hope he doesn’t just throw it away? should i read it to my mom and try and make things better with her at least and leave it with her and maybe she will show him?  I just can’t take this anymore.  I feel so alone, i have no one to talk to, not even in my own house.  I don’t even care about seeing friends, or keeping my car, i just want my family back.  I can’t sit in my room everyday this summer.  My thoughts will consume me.

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SeeSmith 6/15/2016 - 12:13 pm

Dad is being extra assholey. Right now he’s thinking he needs to be extra tough “for your own good.” Keep the letter. (Frankly, I don’t think you should be *too* quick to apologize, but you know your situation best.)

Patents fume. Lovers stomp off. Friends get in a snit. This is normal. Give people space and practice not obsessing about it. You are fine just the way you are. Don’t take other people’s anger as a sign that you are defective.

Have compassion for you father because he has such a narrow world view. Be angry at your father because he treated you like a child. Experience both feelings at the same time and understand it’s OK to feel this way.

Here is a big secret: right now you father is as fragile as you are.

mysteriousvisitor 6/15/2016 - 3:32 pm

It was very mature of you to take the initiative and apologize. Even if what you did (you didn’t specifically name everything) would be no big deal as an adult, it is good that you work within your current set of rules.

Your dad is going way overboard here, but like SeeSmith said, he thinks he is providing the discipline you “need”. He will calm down eventually. Ask your mom if she wants to hear the letter anyway and go by her decision. If she says to wait, then just hold onto the letter for later.

hendrixharvey 6/16/2016 - 6:16 pm

Maybe he needs to grow up like u have. I know he is your Dad I’m a father I replied to your first post Hiya again ???
He needs to sort his head out. It makes me feel sick a father saying that about what he should view as ” One of, if not the most beautiful precious person in his life”.
Stay beautiful

hendrixharvey 6/16/2016 - 6:16 pm

Maybe he needs to grow up like u have. I know he is your Dad I’m a father I replied to your first post Hiya again ???
He needs to sort his head out. It makes me feel sick a father saying that about what he should view as ” One of, if not the most beautiful precious person in his life”.
Stay beautiful

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