It makes me upset to see how some get treated. ”You’re not trying hard enough” ”Be more positive” etc.
No, being suicidal isn’t something you can just snap out of! Why don’t they understand this?
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Some people judge others based on how they’re feeling at the time. If they’ve never felt suicidal then they could never relate, so they think you’re just depressed and that it can be fixed by doing things that will change your mood.
Only those of us who’ve gone through it understand what it means to want to end one’s life. So it might be best to share your thoughts/feelings either with people who are in a similar boat or who are open-minded and supportive. There’s nothing worse than talking to someone who is unsympathetic and doesn’t really want to discuss the issue or offer support-I don’t waste my time on people like that anymore.
Well said.
Unfortunately, finding a truly sympathetic/empathetic ear can be like finding a needle in a haystack.
No-one IRL knows what’s inside my head.
I’d have to agree with itsme. If they have never been to the point where not living is more appealing than living, they can’t begin to understand. Also, I think some of them are trying to cope with a guilty consequence. Should the person actually go through with the suicide, I suspect some people will feel guilty that they didn’t do enough or even do anything. Sometimes the suicidal person just needs an ear & someone to talk with. I think there are some people can’t handle it. Maybe they are afraid at having someone near them who commits suicide. They are afraid it will rub off on them & they may commit suicide.
I know that I’ve been to that edge a few times. I couldn’t tell you why I haven’t committed suicide. If I were to commit suicide I would want to do it on 1 of 2 dates. I have someone who I thought was my best friend. Why the woman (Karla, a coworker of my ex-best friend) Robert blames Karla 100% for Chris divorce from Kristen. Both Karla & Chris were married to other people at the time. In fact Karla & Chris carried on their adulteress fucking relationship for 9 months to a year before their divorces. I think it’s funny how Robert can call Karla pure evil & a manipulator and blame her 100% for Chris divorce from Kristen. After all Chris chose to take his dick out of his pants and fuck Karl. Karla never threatened him. Robert says Karla was an angel with me. What a hypocrite.
If I eventually succeed in committing suicide, I want to do it on March 5th (Robert’s Birthday) or on March 14th (Karla’s Birthday). I’m hoping that by committing suicide on either of their birthdays that at least 1 day out of the year both of them will remember my death.
So Karla was Robert’s wife? Both her and Chris are 100% “consenting” *retarded voice* of themselves, it is not like he RAPED her. Anyway, it is just as much her fault. And she was his wife so I would be blaming her too. It’s not like in a extramarital affair Chris would give 50% and Karla would give 50%…. They are each giving 100%.
So why are you killing youself because of your friend’s affairs? Doesn’t make sense.
I’m killing myself because of a similar situation , but because I was raped and molested.
Yeah, unless someone was raped it’s always the choice of both parties. People are desperate ho’s, what can I say.
You could follow my example of simply staying away from people, but then you might be celibate and friendless for a very long time.
I like the title of your post. So why do normies blame us? Normies usually don’t blame those dying of heart disease, lung disease, intestinal infections and the like because the normie assumes the victim has no power over the matter. This assumption is not always entirely correct either.
But now suicide is a whole different matter to a normie. Even though the brain is the most complex and least understood organ in our body that is also influenced by more external factors than any other organ, the normie confidently assumes we have complete mastery over it regarding suicide and our traumas that lead us down this road. This is an interesting assumption as well.
I have known many normies who practice deleterious habits and destructive desires they cannot completely control. But no, us ‘cides should achieve mastery of the most complex organ in our bodies to a degree no normie usually does.
So why do normies blame us for suicidal ideation and the traumas that fuel it? Their ignorance fuels their hypocrisy.
This is right on the mark. Absolutely. In any losing situation, the normal human response is frustration. Frustration is alleviated by blame (we the victims do it too, but most often we blame and demean ourselves). Normies don’t know who to blame. They can’t blame the doctors because doctors have certificates on the wall making them smarter and blame free. So like you said, the next target is the patient who should have total control over their own minds because after all it’s just a bunch of nerves and grey slop, what idiot can’t control it?? So the normies blame us. Frustration alleviated, problem solved, everyone can get a good night’s sleep. Except us.
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I agree completely. Maybe the normies just cannot imagine it because they value life so much. But then if they can’t understand, they have no right to judge someone for wanting to end their chronic pain. I’m starting to become resentful towards the normies in my life, they are very ignorant it seems.
I think it’s because you’re poking at their floodgate controls, and they don’t like that. The things you’re saying probably resonate with people who have strong emotional reactions to it. It’s like when you catch someone in a lie and they immediately project that insecurity on you, as if you’re the dishonest one.
I’ve talked to my mom about this. I used the example of bisexuality (my sexuality). I told her:
“As a bisexual person, I face prejudice that you, as a straight person, would not face. I receive indirect hate (for now) that you will not receive. You can advocate on my behalf, but you cannot understand how it is to live like me. The same goes for depression, abusive relationships, suicidal thoughts, anxiety, etc.”