Can’t see clearly

It’s better than you know that you see it now. You’re gut’s telling you there’s something wrong with the way you feel, which may mean you’re right. You have a chance to step back a little and look at how you interact with her. Are there red flags? Is she consistent with you? Do you feel you have to work harder to get from her what you need? Does she do things that confuse you or make you unsure about the solidity of the relationship? Does she see others (or does it seem like she might)? Relationships can be addictions; toxic relationships are the most addictive. Talk to trusted friends and family and tell them you just need their honest opinion about how the two of you are together. (Most people won’t say anything until it’s over.) Pay attention to whether the relationship mostly makes you feel good or mostly bad — in terms of time and how often, not in terms of how euphoric you feel with her. The more in the clouds she makes you feel, the more possibility for concern, especially if she can also make you feel unimportant, or a lower priority than you should. That’s all I can think of to tell you. Sadly, there are a lot of people out there who are really good at making us feel on top of the world, getting what they want from us, and then completely destroying us. There are also people who honestly love us. The hard part is figuring out who is who. I hope yours is the latter. No one deserves the kind of pain that comes with realizing love was a lie, when it shouldn’t be. Keep your eyes open and try to see more than her in your life. If you think you are nothing without her, then SHE has made you feel that way. That’s red flag number one, and nothing that happens from this point on is going to be easy. I’ll be thinking about you.