My boyfriend who “loves me” is messaging his ex, saying they are close friends or whatever . Well I don’t like it, it’s not that I don’t trust him, it’s about respect and if theirs no respect in a relationship then theirs no relationship.
It’s not the fact that he can text her a storm and rarely message me throughout the day no, but for him to get upset about my feelings?
He wouldn’t like it of I were to be messaging my Ex, no, no, no he wouldn’t. You know what else he wouldn’t like if my Ex messaged me saying “you know you wanna see me” .. NO!
And before all of this occurred, he was also messaging another girl, saying I didn’t have to worry. His friends “booty call” that he wouldn’t do that to his friend or me… Well I dug deeper and found out he tried asking her out, even asked his friends permission.
But you know what “you don’t have to worry” was all he says “baby you gotta trust me”
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Let that sink in
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You know what have me message guys , or my ex’s and have me say “I can’t let her/ him go”.
He obviously doesn’t tell me everything, witch isn’t considered “cheating” per say
But not telling me everything is bad enough!
If he doesn’t want to loose me he needs to get on the ball and make me feel special, because you know what I know I’m a damnnn good woman. And it’s HIS loss. If he can’t treat me right, someone else will!
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Mm… That last statement. I suggest you follow through with that one. It is obvious this “boy” don’t know the meaning of love. Rid yourself of his arse and carry on, Miss. There be actual “men” out there who will respect you for the woman you are and would bring you along on a journey and not just make you the destination.
You know, when i read “baby you gotta trust me” i already stopped trusting him, lol… that texting thing is never good… and with an ex? i’ve fallen for that one before… and wouldn’t you know, i got dumped for that ex (that i didn’t have to worry about) not long after… so i wouldn’t trust him if i was you (i’m male by the way, but the situation is not really different)
It’s simple he’s using you. He’s not in love with you but you serve a purpose in his life, perhaps sex, perhaps you’re like a reliable dog who keeps running back to him, who knows.
You can see it, we can see it-the guy is clearly cheating on you. This isn’t rocket science, dump his ass…but before you do, get some revenge, lots of revenge. Do everything he hates, make him jealous as hell then dump him. Don’t ever let him know the real reason or he’ll think he has one-up on you.
Report back once it’s over, I’d be interested in knowing the results. 🙂
I have to jump on the wagon with everyone else. Trust is not something you need to ask for or demand. It happens when things are right between two people. You are the familiar one, the comfortable one and the safe one for him. He wants you around for when the excitement fizzles out if he does hook up with someone else. And, he is afraid of confrontation and the “finality” of losing you altogether. It’s funny (funny strange, not funny ha ha) that guys can feel like they can conquer the universe with their penises but are scared to death when it comes to telling the truth. You are absolutely right to set a boundary of truth and if he doesn’t honor that then he is not worthy of your trust, your affection or your heart. It hurts like hell, I know but believe me you will suffer much more in the next month of hoping it will work itself out than you will in the next week if you tell him to take his ego and shove it up his ass. You have to love yourself enough to set things right and on your terms.
Cut your losses now. Get rid of this guy.
My wife cheated on me, forgave her, she did it again, she only “got better” at lying.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
You are only setting yourself up for worse if you remain with that guy, seriously.
He and my ex wife ought to get together, sounds like they were made for each other.