It’s not a matter of how “important” your problems are in relation to everyone else; it’s not a contest to see whose problems are “worse.” People can get depressed for any reason, or no reason at all, and what really matters for you is what is bothering you. It’s good that you decided to talk about what happened to you on this website; there are a lot of people here who share your feelings and are willing to offer advice on how to deal with your emotions, even if they do not share your problems.

I’m sorry that your friend doesn’t seem to understand that what happened to you in your past is still affecting you now. A lot of people see depression as nothing more than a bad mood, something that you can “snap yourself out of” with a little effort. Her anger may be because she thinks this. Obviously, that’s not the case. Maybe you can try talking to her about it again and if she still doesn’t thinks that you’re being spoiled and selfish then perhaps she isn’t a very good friend. I don’t know how old you and your friend are, but I know that younger people tend to have a more difficult time understanding mental health concerns. What about your parents? Do you think you can talk to them about what happened? It might be scary, but if you have understanding parents they might be able to get you help for your issues. If you don’t think you can talk to your parents, then I don’t see why you couldn’t keep posting here. No one here is going to judge you and if they do, who cares what they think? I’ve been helped a lot by talking my problems out with a therapist and writing in a journal, as well as changing the way I think. I make it sound easy, but it’s hard and long work.

That having been said, I’m no expert, just someone who also suffers from depression offering some advice and encouragement. Feel free to do everything, or nothing I said. Do whatever you feel comfortable with. All the best.