My fiance is the problem in my life. He verbally abuses me every time he starts drinking. Everything that goes wrong is my fault. Tonight again everything is my fault. He has blames me for things that never happened to cover up for himself to his friends. He calls me a stupid piece of shit and a ****. He swears at my mother calling her the same just using different words but the meaning is the same. I am not on anti-depressants any more so I dont have anything to use tonight to just lose myself. I love my daughter to bits but I can not control myself when it comes to this man. I would rather die than to put my daughter through the hell I am going through right now. I don’t want her to hear the fighting and swearing. Wish I could die and blame him so he could do time for it. I hate him and at the same time I love him. I must be mad.
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Hello Lilla…I was reading through what people have written here, and your story just kind of reached out and spoke to me.
I don’t think you’re mad, at all. A couple of years ago, I was in a situation very similar to yours. I was eventually able to get away from my abusive fiance. It was the hardest, most painful thing I ever did, and like you, to this day I still hate him and love him to some degree. I never thought I’d make it through leaving him. But life is better then I ever thought it could be now that he’s not in it any more.
I guess I just wanted you to know, if you don’t already, that this is NOT your fault – it’s his behavior that’s the problem, not yours – and that life can be so much better. The pain does stop eventually. You and your daughter both can heal from this and go on together.
I know I’m just a stranger on the internet, but I sincerely wish you and your daughter both strength and all the best…
Yo, If He is the the problem WHY DO YOU HAVE TO DIE? I Wold say kill him but dam…You are not mad, you only have yousless emotion called ,,LOVE”..
Tip:Get rid of it….
please do not marry this guy. your daughter needs you and loves you. i know things might suck in the short term but you need to get this guy out of your life. source: been there done that.