So, my problem may seem stupid to everyone, but its something that has been bothering me for a long time. My best friend… I guess former best friend and I have always fought since about a year after I met him (which was 4 years ago). We had a ton in common back then, and have changed since then and are pretty different now. However, we have always remained great friends minus the fighting all the time. Which, I may say, a lot of the fighting has been my fault as much as his. But, a few weeks ago, it got really bad. He started ignoring me, and it made me start trying harder to get in touch with him. So, basically, this has all ended up with me coming back to school (college senior) after winter break, to find out that he has moved out of our apartment. He blocked my cell phone number, and also quit the job where we both worked. A mutual friend texted him for me, and he told her that he never wants to be my friend again and is just done with me. He won’t even speak to me, or explain any of this. I know we fight and all, and I can be annoying at times when I’m being ignored, but i felt overwhelmed by his decision to do this. I feel so sad and alone right now, and I have no idea what to do… I’ve never lost a friend like this, and combine it with the fact that I have no idea what to do after graduation, I just feel so hopeless… I need help guys, does anyone have anything for me???
Thanks
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Maybe he misunderstood something you said? Took it to heart and was insulted. Got angry. My only advice would be to have that mutual friend ask him what made him feel so angry. I have similar relationships with several of my friends. Basically, the conflict is what fuels our friendships. There have been times when it has gone too far and feeling were hurt. The best way to fix it is to talk it out. Face-toface communication would probably be best, but anything to understand what happened.
i wanted to talk it out. but he just wont even speak to me… ugh, this blows
🙁 Stubborn people can be the best people to talk to or the worst. It really complicates things when people become unreasonable. I’d say keep trying. Create a situation where he has to talk to you. I’m not saying you should corner him in a dark alley somewhere. lol. But some people just need a swift, sharp kick in the ass when they’re acting ridiculously.
If it doesn’t work out in the end, don’t be too bummed out though. There’s always new friends to make.
My only advice for you is to just wait it out. Let him work whatever it is out, or at least give him some time to sort through whatever it is before you try talking to him again. Maybe whatever you said hurt him, or angered him in someway and he just needs some time to stew it over before he talks to you again. Just give him time. Let things happen how they do. I know it’s hard to do and it hurts to have a friend turn their back on you, but you have to let him work it out. Maybe you two were never meant to be friends in the first place. Who knows. But, things will get better.
I think you may need to moderate for that last comment.
I’d recommend to let it go.
If he moved out, quit the mutual job, and blocked your number that means he is moving on.
And I see your side that you miss your friend dearly but if he has already stated he does not want any further communication then trying to push things may just push him away even more.
And that will create even more angst for you.
I’d suggest telling your mutual friend to tell him that if he ever wants to communicate again your door will be open. You can choose to specify a limit.
That way there is no pressure on him and it may possibly work for a positive response.