Over the past few years, all ive wanted is love… somebody to care. My family is never here for me and never really was. They have no idea who i am. So i’ve been looking for the right girl and its failed me. My past 4 girls have failed me… Girl number 1: Fine and dandy, then found out… i got cheated on. 2nd girl dated for a few months, randomly breaks up with me… No reason at all. girl number 3: Broke up with me for somebody who i know is just using her because he talks about it, ill let him because that dumb slut deserves it. Girl number 4: I got cheated on….Again. Now the girl i like of course has a boyfriend, sooo… i guess i’ll live the lie that im fine with the company of myself…
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hi ThisKid… Love often happens when you’re not looking for it. Sometimes looking for love too hard lowers your esteem… and it can show. I’d focus on some of the everyday items you have on your plate… maybe school, work, and stuff like that. Get out and about… Do activities that involve others… Perhaps when you’re least expecting it, you’ll meet that someone special.
hey thiskid.:( sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs. it sucks,but unfortunately it’s the truth. i agree with distant.road. someone will come along when you least expect it.
its the same thing for me so all i have to say is maybe its best just to be lonely… well for now anyway you might just find that one girl that will be perfect for you sooner or later im sure it will happen! 🙂
90% of women in todays world are sluts bro. They’re manipulative, and sneaky..They spread their legs anytime they think they can gain something from it. most will argue this because that’s what they do. (argue) There is about 10% of women that are actually caring, loving and not greedy. Normally the right one will pop up in your life when you least expect it. if you date a woman for a few months and she starts talking about moving in together, then she’s a gold diggin Ho trying to hook you so she can get everything she can from you. She’ll haul ass as soon as she finds someone with more than you. This is the real world ..
@thiskid:
Girl 1 – cheated on you because she was unhappy in the relationship, and either wasn’t comfortable telling you, or too cowardly.
Girl 2 – broke up for a reason. Either she just didn’t bother telling you, or you didn’t want to hear it. But people don’t just break for no reason.
Girl 3 – Yeah, that’s a shame.
Girl 4 – same as girl 1.
Dude, seems like you’re chasing girls that have their sights set elsewhere! I wonder, are you one of those people that wants what they can’t have? Maybe you need to pay more attention to the girls as well… listen to them, be more attune to what they want. Don’t worry, you’ll meet the right one. Practice certainly makes perfect.
@mister miles – so you haven’t been laid for a while so you decide to pull random statistics out of your ass? 90%? Based on, what, the 10 hookers who have been goodly enough to solicit you? No wonder you can’t get a nice girl with that attitude. Go F yourself and get used to it ’cause that’s the most play you’ll be getting as long as you keep that attitude up.
fuck you very much for your advice. you can lick my sack and the last hooker I had was your mom and she did give good head after she took her dentures out..
@mister miles – ewww… you’re the kind of guy who’s happy to accept a blow job off a lady with no teeth… desperate…
You reap what you sow. If you’re going to accuse 90% of woman of being sluts, don’t be suprised if you get it thrown back in your face. Good luck with that.
it’s actually better when she took her dentures out. no biting allowed. you’re probably one of those 90% sluts I was telling him about that likes to start shit just like I was telling the kid.
@mister miles – not really. I’ve shagged 2 guys in the last year. I earn more money than most of my ex boyfriends. My last 3 boyfriends borrowed money off me over the course of our relationships. Based on that, I’m not going to stereotype all men as useless lazy pigs who can’t be bothered to work. I’m just wondering where you f-ed up perspectives on women come from. And also where this ‘90%’ comes from? I don’t know any women who relied on a man for money. I know someone who tried, and he let her down royally.
one_day is a perfect name for you. One-day you will be an old ho if you aren’t already and you’ll have dentures and you’ll be givin some guy with herpes a BJ and you’ll think back to this moment and say to yourself. omg I’m a dirty ***** just like Miles predicted..
@mistermiles you are too funny! come back when you have a valid arguement. I gotta jet now. Have fun jerking off into a sock in a dark corner of your room.
Wtf… @ comments…
Also, ye relationships are a tricky thing. And things seem to have the ability to go all over the place…especially wrong.
I guess it isn’t meant to be easy, and just hang in there?
Can’t give any other advice than that…
lol, I jerked off in the sock an hour ago. I need to get some new ones tomorrow and I prefer the light on. 😉
I feel just like you, ThisKid. Im tired of going through guys and trying to find the right one. I just wanna find one guy that i can have and love for the rest of my life. One person that i can out everything into and give everything to and do everything with. But theres no such thing as not having to go through like a million people just to find a good one -_- it sucks
“i guess i’ll live the lie that im fine with the company of myself”
if you aren’t, learn to be .. a very long process but it’s definitely worth it
many folks have low standards these days .. no genuine concern for the other, dishonesty, disloyalty, in the end it’s all about me, myself and I .. since you’re looking for real love (# lust + good chemistry), you better be very cautious: pay lots of attention to the girl’s actions, how she treats relatives, strangers & wait until your mind & emotions have agreed it’s worth to start a relationship .. this sounds played out but it’s still the best way to protect yourself
don’t let -any- girl lure you into becoming too dependent, wanting badly to have & keep her, that’s a 0/10 in her assessment of your strength of character
also, never allow your need for love to overlook traits you really dislike about a person
SCORE:
One_day = 3
Mister_miles = 1
@Thiskid, Hay man i went through one or too bad breakups when i was in my teens aswell, shit happens when your young. I only had one serious GF in my life, she died, but we were happy for time we had each other, dont get me wrong we faught and argued sometimes, but still loved her, all her perfections and inperfections.
Theres someone out there for us all, you just have to find them.
And too the rest of you who are arguing on thiskids post there is a lot of sterotyping going on, and you cant look at the world that way, or make comments like 90% of girls are sluts, because unless you have met 4 billion wemon you cant really make a claim like that.
Peace 🙂
When you get older you will meet the right girl. I havnt really tried so hard recently because I’m badly out of sorts and no one wants to know a guy like that. There are good ones out there. I remember a girl a used to work with and she had to have been the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. But she was just down to earth, kind, artistic and she was a multimillionairess. Anyway we just sort of clicked and I could tell she liked me because at that time I was doing ok but she was going out with a guy who wore a bandana and an earring. He was a good fellow but looked like an extra from pirates of the carribean. There were many times when I was sat at my desk hoping that his shiney earring would act as a giant conductor causing him to be struck by lightning. In the end they got married and I never saw her again. I’m 27 and all the good ones are taken and I don’t want to settle for someone I don’t connect with.
I don’t want to take sides here but I have noticed a correlation between how much money a guy has and how hot his girl is.
Guy with lots of money= Hot girlfriend
Guy with no money= Not so attractive girlfriend.
There are plenty of athletes, rappers and celebrities who have landed women who I seriously doubt would give them the time of day if he wasn’t filthy rich. This doesn’t mean that ALL women are gold diggers… it just means that men who can afford a Ferrari or a yacht seem to attract the smoking hot dames. You don’t see a centerfold dating a homeless guy.
Lucy decided to grace us with your presence?
I agree with what your saying though. I think that Guys like hot girls and hot girls like nice things. Good for them.
I new a girl once who was decent looking but really kind. Not the one I mentioned above, this one was a family friend. She was like really poor and used to knit her own clothes which I found really cool. Anyway she met this American guy who was a millionaire, they got married and she now lives in Boston. I guess good things can happen to good people.
Hugh Hefner, founder of Playboy Enterprises will turn 86 years old next month. He doesn’t date anyone under about 26 and he only goes after premium grade cuts.
Do you think any of the bunnies at his mention would be interested in a senior citizen if he wasn’t fabulously wealthy?
er Mansion, not mention. Hello Duke
If it wasn’t for Viagra Heffner would be finished IMO.
I don’t want a super model. Although I wouldn’t say no. I think really cool, creative and unassuming girls are way more interesting.
Right on Duke. After you get your law degree and start pulling in some serious cash you’ll probably become much more attractive. 🙂
I was sent to Nottingham last year on business. My hotel was fully paid for but I didnt like the restaurant so I went to the hotel down the road. You could easily spend £100 on a meal in there. Anyway, I had just had a winner at the track and had wedges of cash on me. I was just throwing it around in the Casino, drinking Dom perigon (1990 was a good year BTW) and you will never guess how many girls numbers I got. The girl in the restaurant I could see her giving me looks. I am not an old guy and can be handsome when I try so it wasn’t so hard for me. But yeah, when you flash the cash your like the pied piper. I still wouldn’t want to be a footballers though. I don’t think I could get by on two brain cells.
Yeah, you have to pay to play. If you want to join an exclusive club the price tag for admission will keep most people from gaining membership. I don’t fault women for this, btw. If I was a hot chick I’d probably target millionaires as well.
Everything requires maintenance including relationships. Taking care of a Rolls Royce will cost more than it would a VW.
Lucy, we should pity Heffner and his numerous sexual conquests, exorbitant amounts of money and porno collection. He has no love in his life. When you take everything away he’s just a pathetic old man who lives off exploiting the vulnerable and profiteering from the pervs.
Duke; Is Hef really the bad guy or is he the victim? The bunnies get a chance to advance their career, maybe get a reality tv show, and all they have to do is frolic about topless and go swimming all day long while being craved by countless men. Who’s using who?
Yeah but the bunnies are soon exposed for what they are. Well, I’m not going to say anything.
I’m in a rabbit hole here and I might not make it out.
It’s all good Bro. You make some valid points. I’ll be back later–Hasta
Laters
The beautiful people of the world are privileged and have more options. This is not a gendered phenomena, happens to men as well. But truthfully, it is more common with women for 2 reasons: men still control the vast majority of wealth in the world, and in general, men are also more superficial so they look for trophy partners. If your going to criticize the trend you have to look at the reasons the trend exists.
Lucy I think u just implied that I’m not hot. F u too.
Also I have met huh Hefner and he’s alright. At this stage it’s pretty obvious he’s not snagging the bunnies. In fact I’m not sure that was ever part if the deal of being a bunny. He just likes having beautiful women around and what’s wrong with that? If I ha more money than I knew what to do with I would hire a bunch of hot guys to hang around my place as well.
Point being that what yr talking about is superficiality, an it occurs across the genders.
@this kid – take a feminism class and all the girls will love you
@one_day; There are exceptions to every rule. Ocassionally a dog gets a hottie and vice versa. My point was that a persons chances for bagging a highly desirable mate increases proportionally with how much money they’ve got. This doesn’t mean that you’re unattractive just because you pick guys that make less money than you. If anything it suggests that you ARE attractive because guys appreciate your being a sugar momma to them.
Are you looking to adopt a full grown male? 🙂
Ouch
Money can indeed get you a lot of things and a lot of people in life.
I have worked on cases involving celebrities I can’t say who because of confidentiality but the impression some of them give on television is false. One famous actor I could tell had a drug problem and everytime I would call him he was just unpredictable. Sometimes humble other times rude and abrupt. I just thought what a c.nt. A month later he was on a show on TV and I just told my family that the guy is nothing like he is in real life. No wonder he doesn’t get the major parts anymore even the industry must think the same thing. I was the main lawyer on the case apart from queens Counsel and you know not a word of gratitude.
I think there is often a public persona and a private persona… People, including celebrities, seem to learn rather quickly what it takes to make it on the public stage… but there is often a private side, too. I think you’re right about the industry knowing… There are a lot of whispers and gossip… Some wind up on sites like TMZ; some don’t.
@Lucy I don’t disagree with you except for the point where you imply that that gold digging is gender specific. Also, women are way more likely to chose a mate based on personality than looks. U see hot girls with average guys a lot more than the reverse. It’s not common women are defiantly less driven by looks.
A persons chances of bagging a desirable mate increases based on their money? Once again that goes back to your definition of desirable, and in context, desireable to you means good looking but materialistic. Personally, I want someone who is kind, smart, funny, deep and treats me well. My finances won’t factor in pulling a guy like that. If interested please renew above criteria and submit and application. pay special attention to the treating me well bit. Expecting flowers on my doorstep any day now
@duke actors are funny people. I used to think they were all just weird and untrustworthy. And the. I though about them in terms of their art and realized: they put so much emotional intensity into pretending to be someone else… If I had to pretend to be someone else all day that would screw me up as well
Unbeknown to either of you, SP might have changed your lives in ways no one could have foreseen.
Perhaps, Duke… or it may simply be a delay mechanism of sorts. For the moment, the jury on that is still out.
The one I am talking about spent most of his life in obscurity and poverty. That was what brought about his fame. I suppose being around other celebrities he wasn’t able to conform to their expectations and cracked under the pressure of it all. He was more concerned about the newspaper reports and I just told him to focus on the problem at hand because it was a red alert situation and if things went wrong it was all over. Anyway, I’m just glad I don’t have to speak to him anymore it was doing my head in.
@ one_day; (I don’t know why your comments keep getting stuck on that back page.)
I respect your ideals and appreciate that you believe in concepts like “true love” and “equality for all.” I believe in these ideas as well I just don’t see them put into practice much on a daily basis.
Consider this a virtual bouquet of flowers placed on your doorstep.
Virtual flowers!
Well it’s the thought that counts (cheapskate) 🙂
On some days, a fair number of my comments wind up in moderation… I guess SP has its mood swings, too.
Might be because profile has been updated.
I did that by changing my email to shake of the millions of SP girls
Who might have stalked me.
Then I got desperate and changed it back.
Maybe that’s it… I didn’t think about profile updates.
Duke lol I did update profile with fake email. But now I’m tempted to check I cause I am a curious cow…
Lucy agree with duke. Cheapsket! It’s all good, I had u freaking out therethat I was serious didn’t I? You and I disagree on a lot of thjngs but I don’t see why that should make a difference to how we get along. Cmon the one bond we do share is that we both offend a lot of people…
I was wondring if the swear police had flagged me and are doing the censorship that I really should be doing myself
@Duke; Cheapskate? That was $49.99 on my virtual credit card.
Thankfully, only virtual payments are required on that virtual credit card.
Yeah I don’t know if I could afford one_day. She seems like a Porsche.
If that’s the case, I’d send balloons with that chocolate.
Ok. Virtual ballons, teddy bears and chocolate are on their way.
At least this topic has gained the notoriety befitting. If only this kid knew.
Perhaps ThisKid will come back and see… 50+ comments and counting.
This post has officially been hijacked and is flying towards points unknown.
I’d be curious to know how often people visit and post once… then don’t return. I’d hope it was just a moment that they needed to vent and then things worked out.
indeed it is, lucy4… If it winds up in some faraway island that sees no snow, I’m all for it.
Yeah…I just don’t want to see it fly into a building.
@Lucy virtual chocolate and Teddy bears gets you virtual brownie points I guess. Thiskid pay attention this is how to treat a lady. Never-ending insatiable flattery and attention
Neither do I… I was thinking a safe virtual landing in a warm virtual place.
One_Day
If I ever decide to become a stalker I might be inclined to send you this poem from my youth. I’m surprised I was able to remember it given the amount of alcohol I have consumed in the intervening period.
‘War Photographer’
In his darkroom he is finally alone
with spools of suffering set out in ordered rows.
The only light is red and softly glows,
as though this were a church and he
a priest preparing to intone a mass.
Belfast. Beirut. Phnom Penh. All flesh is grass.
He has a job to do. Solutions slop in trays
beneath his hands which did not tremble then
though seem to now. Rural England. Home again
to ordinary pain which simple weather can dispel,
to fields which don’t explode beneath the feet
of running children in a nightmare heat.
Something is happening. A stranger’s features
faintly start to twist before his eyes,
a half formed ghost. He remembers the cries
of this man’s wife, how he sought approval
without words to do what someone must
and how the blood stained into foreign dust.
A hundred agonies in black-and-white
from which his editor will pick out five or six
for Sunday’s supplement. The reader’s eyeballs prick
with tears between the bath and pre-lunch beers.
From the aeroplane he stares impassively at where
he earns his living and they do not care.
@one_day; Wow, thanks. I’m glad you’re so easy. This really makes my day. Wanna get a couple of virtual drinks later and visit my virtual lair?
LMFAO @ one_day & lucy4: No shit. I never thought you two would turn out to be an item.
If those virtual drinks have a non-virtual effect, please send me some… or point me in the right direction.
Well, I would hate to get in the way of romance. I’m going to make a nuisance of myself elsewhere on this site.
Hey Gaara; You can tag along for the drinks too if you’d care to. 1st rounds on me here at the Virtual Happy Hour SP pub.
Nah don’t leave Duke. I’ll buy you a drink too.
Someone mention drinks?
I’m gonna have to pass. I’m what you’d call Straight Edge, I guess.
@Gaara; That’s cool. I’m a huge Minor Threat fan. (They’re credited with coining the term Straight Edge). Sorry for babbling earlier it must’ve been the virtual booze talking.
Abstainance makes the heart grow fonder.
# abstinence
I could imagine my life without beer though. Enough to drive a man to drink.
I don’t drink often… and I quit smoking. More than once, I conclude that either one would be quite helpful at a given moment.
Lucy4, apologies weren’t necessary.
Hmm… my heart already turned to ash earlier this week. ‘Nuff said.
@G; They say that the Phoenix rises from the ashes though, right? Be back later. Peace.
@ThisKid: Love yourself. Basic, ain’t it.
@Lucy the only wh yr getting me to your virtual lair is if you don’t forget the virtual rohoypnol. Hi garra. Boys suck right?
Before you can love someone else you have to love yourself. Somebody else won’t make you truly happy. A relationship shouldn’t be your life, it should just enhance it. When you’re ready and you don’t expect it, love will find you and it will be amazing. don’t just give your heart to the first girl that pays attention to you. You’re special, wait and take your time to see who the girl really is and if she values you. I hope everything goes great for you.