I’m a freshmen in college and I have not made alot of friends. I started getting anxious junior year of high school and it ended up being a social thing where i felt like i was constantly being judged by EVERYONE and still do. Either the social anxiety has caused me to be deeply depressed for about 2 and a half years or the depression has made me so withdrawn from being social with old friends and trying to meet new friends that my life has become a very boring one.
For an extrovert like myself it is literally torture to be sitting in my room night in and night out while my peers go out and chase girls and have fun with other people they met. I want to be happy and social so badly and I am on an anti depressant and have been in and out of counseling but my issues are getting to a point where I’m not sure how many options I have left. I don’t want to live life scared anymore, I’d honestly not live it at all. I guess I’m just not this tough.
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I dont think its about being tough enough…if so i knda screwed haha. Im a senior and i see all my peers partying and getting ready for prom and all that stuff while sit at home, it sucks. I want to be happy and social too but really whodoesnt? The way i see id rather have 2 good friends rsther than a dozen sucky ones. Stop worrying about being judged( i know easier said than done) but just be U…hang in there
thank you both- and i feel like it is more of a problem within me and that i cant be myself and i have next to no self esteem and self-confidence…and teen girl i completely agree 2 good friends is much better than any number of sucky ones. i just really have had this anxiety/depression bringing me down for 2 and a half years now and i feel as though i wasn’t really ready for college socially cuz of my self esteem and anxiety. i just feel stuck and honestly i know how bad this sounds but i really do wanna just end everything cuz its not worth it…not worth living scared 24/7. The only thing that keeps me from ending it is my family and i am afraid suicide will send me to hell.
College is a transition point of sorts… You build the knowledge you need in order to begin (and support) an independent life. In an ideal world, you’re ready to enter the working world and launch a career once your studies wrap up. Some things, however, will remain constant through life. People will continue to judge you… Your boss, of course… but also your peers and your family… and perhaps people you don’t know. The best strategy is to do the best you can do. If they’re going to judge you, give them something positive to judge.
With that said, just because someone is judging you doesn’t mean they’re entitled to do so… and it also doesn’t mean that you have to worry about every person who judges you. Some people simply have nothing better to do in life then judge and criticize others. If I had a nickel for every person who judges/judged me, I would be a millionaire.
Have you tried to get out and about a little bit… You don’t have to start with anything major… The library, a coffee shop, or the mall work perfectly fine. As you get more comfortable getting out, you can build on that. You mentioned that you very much want to be social. When it comes to being social, you’re in the driver’s seat.
You shouldn’t be scared of life… and if you make a mistake, learn from it and move forward. The college years are definitely the time to do that.
Thats pretty much my same reasons. I cant imagine ever putting my family through that even thiugh they arent always that supportive i know theylove me, and although i wasnt raised ver religiously im scared about what will happen, will i go to hell or be stuck here? Scary stuff
it really is. and yeah i don’t think i could ever put my family through that. but i had kind of a sheltered-ish childhood. my mom is a wicked stressed out sensitive mother and she has always kind of controlled me and expected alot of me but she loves me so much and i know it would absolutely kill her if anything happened to me. i really feel as though I’m stuck and i’m basically screwed no matter what, because the real problem roots from me basically hating myself and having no self confidence
Yeah i was sort of sheltered but my mommade me aware of the world( she made me warch americas most wanted and 60 min haha). I have also really struggled with self esteem and confidence…sometimes i wish i had never existed so i wouldnt have to be going though this now…
you have alot to look forward to you’re still in high school. i just feel like I’m never gonna be better and I’m always gonna have this anxiety and depression, it really makes me just unhappy all the time, wake up unhappy, go to bed sad, lonely when I’m alone, it will all always be there. i have no problem thinking about dying either personally, besides the family and hell thing
The only high school thing im looking forward to is graduation, 64 school days left not tthat im counting haha, i just want to move on ya know? I dont know how high school was for u but it really sucks for me, everyone talks about where they r going next yr and grad night prom yada yada but i dont even have ahyone to gi with since im SUPER shy so that just makes me more self consious
my high school years were pretty awful, and my low self confidence is due largely to this fact lol trust me i know high school sucks. there is so much more to life than high school though just remember that, high school is basically just designed to suck any self confidence from any semi-doubtful person out there, and thats what it does. things will get easier after you are out, i promise.