my dad found out that i cut… he said he’s sending me to a therapist if i do it again… great. i cut again tonight and i know he is going to find out and send me :/
At least he cares, I would like a father like that. My dad found out and didn’t do anything. He may have even forgot about it. My mom found out and told me I “should be doing it the right way”… and “Good, hope you die”. Yes, those exact words. My parents are quite old, too old for the age I am. My mother is suffering from dementia so she has no clue about it anymore (thank goodness!). Somethings ARE better left forgotten especially in this case for me… But I guess my mom didn’t have a choice to forget it or not.
I apologize for all my self-absorbed rants; i tend to do that a lot. I’m just trying to open your eyes that you should be happy with what you have. In my perspective, it’s a great relationship between you and your father because he’s showing that he cares a lot about you- something I didn’t have. He cares, so don’t hide it from him. What’s the worst that can happen? Try it out, it might turn out well! 🙂
the reason i hate that he is trying to help me isnt because i dont want to go to a therapist i really dont care that mucb about that it just bothers me that at times he is protective of me like now and other times he is the one who causes me pain
Then tell him that. Someone told me this today, and it’s very true; “going to a therapist is going to be a complete waste of time if you don’t have the motivation”. If you don’t have motivation to get better, you’re going to expect the therapist to “fix you” which is impossible for them to you. It’s up to you to get the help from them; you need the motivation for it. I didn’t have the motivation and wasted half a year on a therapist. All along, I was expecting her to “fix me” but it just doesn’t work that way. You MUST have the motivation for help if you want the therapist experience to be successful (yeah, mine ended up quite badly and made me worse).
I’d tell your father what he does to you. He can’t help you or stop it from happening again if he doesn’t know what affects you. You should tell him, it’s worth a try 🙂
My dad found out that i cut. a while back, like in november. and i had to go to the counseller at my school. she sucked but yeah. idk i think that you`ll grow to be more open to your therapist . im sure your dad is doing this out of the love he has for you. he`s probably worried for you, and doesn`t know what to do. idk just a guess. but yeah , if you go to the therapist then he`ll probably get off your case, or may not. idk if thats good though . okay, yeah.
Aye, I think Nobody has some good points. Your dad is just trying to show he cares, maybe in not quite the manner you’d like – but still. Maybe a therapist would help, you never know – does it really hurt to try? If it doesn’t help, then you can tell your dad or fake your way out of it…
But again, Nobody’s point – therapy will not help unless you’re open to it. If you’re not motivated and don’t want help, well then you’re not going to get help.
So yea, listen to Nobody heh.
with the thing about the therapist, i dont want to get better. unless they can magically fix all the shit in my life i think im dealing with everything in the best way that i can without causing further harm. about my dad the thing is he knows that he is doing it and feels terrible so if i told him all it would do is end up hurting him
Just go to the therapist, respond what she/he asks and look like you are happy… it’s all a cience but i cofused my last therapist and i got out of her in just two months with appoinments once a week, if you want you can mail me and tell me your story so i can help you do that
Hey, I have an idea!
Since they are making you go to a therapist I’ll tell you a little secret;
You have a right to find a therapist that YOU like, someone you trust and can talk to.
So go, see how it is for about three sessions.
If you don’t like that one, ask for another one, yup just keep asking for a new therapist!
Any decent therapist will always help you find another if you ask for one.
Plus, you may eventually find one that YOU picked, not dad, and maybe that therapist can help you in the long run.
Peace
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At least he cares, I would like a father like that. My dad found out and didn’t do anything. He may have even forgot about it. My mom found out and told me I “should be doing it the right way”… and “Good, hope you die”. Yes, those exact words. My parents are quite old, too old for the age I am. My mother is suffering from dementia so she has no clue about it anymore (thank goodness!). Somethings ARE better left forgotten especially in this case for me… But I guess my mom didn’t have a choice to forget it or not.
I apologize for all my self-absorbed rants; i tend to do that a lot. I’m just trying to open your eyes that you should be happy with what you have. In my perspective, it’s a great relationship between you and your father because he’s showing that he cares a lot about you- something I didn’t have. He cares, so don’t hide it from him. What’s the worst that can happen? Try it out, it might turn out well! 🙂
the reason i hate that he is trying to help me isnt because i dont want to go to a therapist i really dont care that mucb about that it just bothers me that at times he is protective of me like now and other times he is the one who causes me pain
Then tell him that. Someone told me this today, and it’s very true; “going to a therapist is going to be a complete waste of time if you don’t have the motivation”. If you don’t have motivation to get better, you’re going to expect the therapist to “fix you” which is impossible for them to you. It’s up to you to get the help from them; you need the motivation for it. I didn’t have the motivation and wasted half a year on a therapist. All along, I was expecting her to “fix me” but it just doesn’t work that way. You MUST have the motivation for help if you want the therapist experience to be successful (yeah, mine ended up quite badly and made me worse).
I’d tell your father what he does to you. He can’t help you or stop it from happening again if he doesn’t know what affects you. You should tell him, it’s worth a try 🙂
My dad found out that i cut. a while back, like in november. and i had to go to the counseller at my school. she sucked but yeah. idk i think that you`ll grow to be more open to your therapist . im sure your dad is doing this out of the love he has for you. he`s probably worried for you, and doesn`t know what to do. idk just a guess. but yeah , if you go to the therapist then he`ll probably get off your case, or may not. idk if thats good though . okay, yeah.
Aye, I think Nobody has some good points. Your dad is just trying to show he cares, maybe in not quite the manner you’d like – but still. Maybe a therapist would help, you never know – does it really hurt to try? If it doesn’t help, then you can tell your dad or fake your way out of it…
But again, Nobody’s point – therapy will not help unless you’re open to it. If you’re not motivated and don’t want help, well then you’re not going to get help.
So yea, listen to Nobody heh.
with the thing about the therapist, i dont want to get better. unless they can magically fix all the shit in my life i think im dealing with everything in the best way that i can without causing further harm. about my dad the thing is he knows that he is doing it and feels terrible so if i told him all it would do is end up hurting him
Just go to the therapist, respond what she/he asks and look like you are happy… it’s all a cience but i cofused my last therapist and i got out of her in just two months with appoinments once a week, if you want you can mail me and tell me your story so i can help you do that
Hey, I have an idea!
Since they are making you go to a therapist I’ll tell you a little secret;
You have a right to find a therapist that YOU like, someone you trust and can talk to.
So go, see how it is for about three sessions.
If you don’t like that one, ask for another one, yup just keep asking for a new therapist!
Any decent therapist will always help you find another if you ask for one.
Plus, you may eventually find one that YOU picked, not dad, and maybe that therapist can help you in the long run.
Peace