I’m tired of this hocus pocus hogwash mentality that people have with females/male interaction. Â The act of sexual intercourse is viewed with such a “taboo” image that it’s hard to get past the poster of it all. Â I was raised very conservative, going to church daily (as in 7 days a week), raised with the typical Christian “pre-marital sex is bad, drugs are bad, alcohol is bad.” Â Needless to say, that has all gone away, more so as I descend into the pits of hell. Â But one thing still really bothers me. Â The idea of sex. Â It ruins relationships before they even begin! Â I moved from my conservative land to a much more liberal one where drugs and sex ran rampant. Â However, I was just looking for a relationship, someone to come home to and go out with. Â I’m not unattractive on the outside (can’t say much for the inside, I’m all kinds of fucked up) and it became quite obvious that only my physique was attractive. Â Why? Â Because that is the bullshit that is fed into society by the fucking media! Â That’s why! Â No one remembers that sex is the physical response to our intellectual and spiritual values, manifested from what is otherwise abstract. Â To me, sex is a culmination of the things that I value and hold to be beautiful and precious, not some disgusting/vile act. Â This brings me to my point: Â Women have this mentality that if a man speaks to her, he’s only interested in one thing: Â Sex. Â And that’s a problem because it’s wrong….but is it? Â What higher compliment can you get? Â Granted, some men may not have the highest values, but that’s basically saying “You are the embodiment of my values.” Â But since this interpretation is skewed, women have this base hate/reproach towards men (I can already hear the sexists screaming). Â BECAUSE OF THIS, men start to think that “hey, maybe I don’t have a purpose for wanting to be with this girl, maybe I am just programmed that way, durh.” Â What result does this have for the men and women with values??? Â They are excluded from social participation because they don’t “fit in.” Â How horrible is that? Â Now we have to go throughout our lives, lonely, suffering, hating, bitter, and all for what?? Â Because of the ignorance that exists in today’s social culture. Â I hate men just as much as I hate women (ignorant beings only), this realization has helped me get through humiliation and defeat/rejection and if it helps you too, then power to you!
Oh, I have to give credit to Ayne Rand, she has been a huge inspiration in my life.
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The other problem is that if you’re close to someone, everyone assumes its sexual but maybe you just see each other as more than bodies. 🙁
Well it does makes sence for women to be offended if all the man wants is sex cause it can be interprated that they mean nothing more than a place to dump a load (appolagies for the crudeness) For me sex must be more about the emotional loving hightened by the phisical, without the emotional aspect it holds no apeal, maby thats just me. The world seems to be going in a cycle, we seem to be back in aincient times where fucking was a sport, a game if u will with slaves and such, the only difference i can see is our weapons are more powerfull and our leaders more usless…
Thank you. Really.
Your posts betray a keen intellect.
Ths post is unique in that it doesn’t describe a gender role for you, bravo.
You are right of course, because sexual interactions are socially constructed in our society, we can expect them to have retained little of their historic biological purpose.
Om shanti
people asume these days that teenagers that are coupples have sex all the time, that may be true but what i look for a girl is not the sex, i just want a girl to talk to when im feeling down and be best friends, understand each other and then move into a relationship then talk about sex and our life together, not just friends with benifits using eachother just for sex… why can’t people share what i beleive is best
@WillTickin You’re very welcome.
@the Guardian Sadly, most people, especially around me, don’t understand the message I was trying to convey. I can only hope it will actually reach a few, because that’s a few less people that will be lonely out there. I’d say the majority of us are here because we are/feel alone.
Interesting.
I’ve found celbacy to be quite liberating although i’d not recommend it to anyone else.