I haven been here in sometime, mostly because i found and amazing guys who gives me a reason to live and fights for me at moments when i feel like giving up. But as you guys know it life cant be great for people like us things always get screwed up for us. My mom hates my boyfriend and has gone to the extend of telling me that i have to pick between her or my boyfriend and if i see my boyfriend again i would stop being her daughter and that i might as well just kill her because thats what im doing by dating him. I dont know if she hates him bcz his black or if that has nothing to do with it but she tells me im to good for him that i deserve someone better but i wish she understood that this guy she hates so much is saving my life i mean if it was not bcz i have him i would b living my last few days as of right now. i dont know what to do i mean my mom is my mom can i ryl do something like turn my back on her? but letting him go is not an option either bcz he is the one thing that is keeping me a life. Why cant i ever just b happy why must life always make things so complicated and hard? What should i do about this?????
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Hmmm… choosing between your mother and your boyfriend… I say choose yourself. Choose what’s gonna make YOU happy.
Well, if the guy is a “player” and he hurts you, you should think about it really good. But if that’s not the case, she has no right to tell you who to love and how to live your life. Cause it’s YOUR life not hers.
In the end it’s better making mistakes on your own, than regretting listening to others!
I probably shouldn’t say that since I’m the clumsiest of person in those kind of stuff.
I think you should take some time to clearly remember all the time you spent with this boyfriend nd judge by YOURSELF if he really is that wounderful of a guy.Wether you just find him comforting just because he gave you much needed love or if it really is true love.
I mean…Your mother probably know you better then anyone so she must have a really good reason to not like him.
Maybe you should have a good talk with her?
Your mother is emotionally blackmailing you, which is unfair but I am assuming it’s coming from a place of love. She might think that an interracial relationship will make your life harder, so she is telling you to stay away to ‘protect you’. My instinct is that if your mother really loves you, then dating a guy isn’t going to stop that, and it’s just an empty threat. Nevertheless, she’d probably be happier if she just didn’t know about it. What are the chances if you just kept the relationship a secret?
I would ask her why she doesnt like your boyfriend. Pester her until she tells you the real reason. Tell her what you have told us, about how he is the only thing keeping you from giving up. It sounds like your mother has your best interest at heart so once you tell her this she should offer to help you with your depression.