get beat physically by sister verbal abuse by dad and watch mom say nothing all for being alive
wonder around (not like i have anyone to hang with?)
sister has chores: this means “ok whatver” then “hannah if u dont do my chores i will beat u so hard” not llike i can just walk away cuz she chokes me and pusheds me to the ground then says “wow this is why your fat all u do is sit on your ass”
then i do her chores an my chores and when i do something of hers wrong guess what? im slapped and choked.
try to go to my room to check email
sister says: get out now…i say no she says if u dont u know what will happen…(this is fucked but she will lie to my parents and say i have sex and whatch porn with my 6 secret boyfriends lol i only have one…who lives in texas! but of course she gets her way no one believes me. EVER.
i manage to reply emails but im slapped the whole time til i walk away and slave over her more
watch tv while listening to my sisters infinite amount of questions i cant ignore them or she screams “hannah watches porn” and i scream “u fucking ass liar!” which over powers her and my parents just say “SHUT UP!”
then miracously im not dead and made it to dinner i sit and pick at food…and throw it away. i take a shower only not even 10seconds after i step in my suster bangs on the door screaming “get out or ypu know what will happen! i pretend i cant hear her and i just hurry with a shower until she unlocks the door pulls me by my arm and forces me to get dressed and watch tv with her in less then a minute…finally shes off to bed im off to my room an hour later if my parents actually care otherwise she doesnt go to bed til i do. then i go online til i fall alseep…
yup so thats my day..every weekend..week days arent as bad but im still beat just not all day:/ HELP ME. i need to get away from her!
where are my parents when she does this?
listening and encouraging it cuz they are scared of her too…
Nice to see you’re still alive like me somehow.
ieh i guess its nice…i rather be dead
hey we have something in common! so been away for awhile, how are things with your boyfriend?
things are ok, after his 2month silence and the return of my phone weve been better this week is a lot better compared to others…but i love him no matter whatXD
Thats awesome!(: wish i could say the same lol.
Have you tried having a serious conversation with your parents about this issue so that there’s a stop to it?
she has. :/. Parents do pretty much nothing always side with sister.
@black swan: yup imperfectluck is right i talk about it everyday they tell me to shut cuz shes better.
@imperfectluck: i know its awesome! sorry, love is kinda stupid anyways
How old is she and how old are you? And do they literally tell you she’s better?
yes and shes 9 and im 15
OMG Sweetie, that’s not nice of your parents to say. But I am confused you’re older than her. How come she gets to beat you up?
@black swan: cuz 1)shes capable of it 2) im older and weigh more making it unfair for her the most i can do is poke her thats it
Stand up for yourself Sweetie. Don’t become a victim so early in life. There is no need to. Put your little sister in her place teach yourself and her a lesson. The world can be a tough place and if you don’t do it now you’ll be in similar situations later.
@black swan: i do try…it only gets me beat more…ive talked to them personally, i talk to counselors, i got them filed with cps even! nothing happens…i was born to be abused
I would beat the living daylights out of your little sister if I were you. If she beat me back I would hit her harder. Soon she would be scared to mess with you. Don’t say you were born to be abused cause you unconsciously will create situations where you will be.
@black swan: oh i try that i have hurt her…badly. she dont care. and what do u mean il create situations where il be?
Abusive family, abusive boyfriends, abusive husbands, etc etc…. Go to the State.
He/she means you’ll put yourself into positions not knowingly to be abused.
So you shouldn’t care either. Put her in her place you are older and stronger. With the previous I mean that if you feel like you were born to be abused, people will notice that image you have about yourself, you will act as the victim and they will soon not hesitate to prey on you.
@heartcore: i would do anything to get away from my family but they deny everything last time i filed them with cps they beat me
@black swan: iguess. but unles u meet her its impossible to know how horrible she makes me feel…shes that scary and bitchy
Hey, you always got us, and you have your boyfriend.(:
When I was your age I remember two boys that made fun of me and I stood quiet. I was so angry and hurt. I promised myself that I would never let that happen again and from then one when someone yelled at me, I yelled at them louder. I someone insulted me, I would insult them back and harsher. I stood up for myself and it felt good. People know better than to mess with you and they will respect you.
@imperfectluck: yes thats true(:except the world hates me and puts a 1000mile gap between my bf and i and a bunch of random miles between me and other people on sp….which sux:/
@black swan: i seem to be good with that..at school…but at home i tend to be weak..
Girl why you scared of a 9 year old. This is disgraceful. She ain’t got shit on you she’s fucking 9 she don’t know shit. I’ve met a lot of 9 year olds and they are all dumb because they don’t have experience or any perspective worth talking about. i don’t get it man you have got to look past your impression of her and see her for what she truly is, a dumbass weak stupid 9 year old. If you don’t stand up for yourself she is going to grow up thinking it’s ok to abuse people.
Well, the person I love is 2,000 miles away so haa! Lol. It isn’t really the age that matters, but what it represents.
@sonic: thats impossible to do. read more of my posts.
@imperfectluck: wow, u win. still though i wish there was no gap between me and my bf and everyone on sp
for months and months you have been posting the same crap…..
You have two feet. Start walking or quit whinning. Your endless excuses for staying put is ooooooooold
dang IDM, thats pretty fucked up. i understand what you mean, but still have a little compassion. i get how we give and give advice and no one takes it. this whole website is like a revolving door. i almost type the same sentences and advice to people. but thats why people come here. they need this reminder. you think that this problem just went away for this person? most people here give advice they dont even take to begin with, so should i just make a post saying “quit being hypocrites and just kill yourselves already”. or that maybe 1000s of times people have told you you matter yet your name is “i dont matter”. maybe some people like your advice or think you might be a decent person, but a comment like that speaks volumes about you… not good ones.
forgive me – i didn’t read through everything … a thought came to mind and i wanted to type it out before i forgot … but … if you’re either going to get beat and not believed and ultimately in trouble no mater what you do … why don’t you just beat her ass?
fuck it – you can’t win any way you turn so the least you can do is do something worth being in “trouble” for. I’m not an advocate for violence – but when i was growing up, i had a similar overbearing sibling and if i didn’t do what he said he’d kick my ass – if i did, i got in trouble … so i figured since i couldn’t win either way – i fought him – i figured if he wanted me to do what he wanted – i’d make it costly for him every time … and as for parents – if they already don’t believe you and are blaming you – might as well do what you’re accused of … tell them the truth – and let them know – if they refuse to believe you, you’ll do whatever you must to protect yourself.
What would happen if your parents didn’t believe in you, dear?
Well, you have got two choices,
1) You will take it every day, saying dealing with her is ‘impossible’ and you will keep complaining about the situation.
2) You will stop being afraid of her and change the situation, that’s all!
ok IDM that was harsh..but i will say this again: UNLESS U FUCKING MEET MY SISTER YOU WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND WHY IM SCARED. ITS NOT JUST A SLAP AND ITS OVER ITS BEEN SINCE SHE COULD SPEAK. MY PARENTS WILL ATTEMPT TO TAKE MY SIDE THEN REALIZE ITS USELESS CUZ SHE IS THE DEMANDING! SHE MAKES MY PARENTS CRY!! SHE MAKES HER FRIENDS CRY! EVERYONE IS TERRIFIED OF HER. I HAVE HURT HER BADLY!!!! SHE DOES NOT CARE AT ALL! NOTHING WORKS WITH HER. SO SHUT UP PLEASE, THAT WAS MEAN WHEN U DONT KNOW HER AND HOW HORRIBLE SHE IS. IM NOT FUCKING COMPLAINING IM RATHER STATING WHAT I GO THROUGH SO SHUT UP OR BE NICE!!!!!!! damn.
ok @Dawg: no i have tried and tried..seriously i swear. its a never ending cycle. it may just be because of her age..i hope cuz damn if shes 16 and makes me occup her in the shower…then she has some MAJOR issues. i hope this is just a phase if it is..whatever then if not its game on.
@dunkelheit: everytime my sister tells lies about me and they buy into it…for three months my parents tell my what a disgrace i am and how shouldnt be here i should leave them cuz they are ashamed im their daughter
point is words hurt.
PLEASE STOP THINKING OR SAYING FOR ME TO “GROW UP” I WOULD REALLY LIKE TO SEE HOW YOU GUYS WOULD LITTERALLY DEAL WITH HER IF U MET HER AND U WERE ME. CUZ IT IS TERRIFYING…AND ITS NOT FAIR I COME HERE JUST TO SAY WHAT HAPPENS AND THEN IM TOLD TO GROW UP…it aint that easy..(MAINLY DIRECTED TO i_dont_matter)
@ Dawg…that is true. I’d say “fuck it” too…go down dirty!
Yeah … i understand your dilemma but i’m still of the opinion that if it’s that bad and she’s that out of control and your parents are afraid to do anything then it’s beat down time all day every day … consequences be damned – i was almost on perpetual groundings for fighting my brother – but every time he wan’t to pick on me he suffered for it … yeah, i’d be grounded – but he had to sport the broken nose.
That said, you know your situation best so only you know if that is an option.’