Could this help anyone?
After a head injury one feels troubled for many years and ones thoughts can be dark.
A therapist was explaining to me that one needs to redirect ones thoughts and make new brain patterns or ones thoughts keep going to the same dead end of negativity.
She said just do one thing a day to start.
If you can start by one little step at time to start redirecting ones thoughts thats helping to make a new pattern – a new future for you.
She explained thoughts like sheep trails which often lead no where – so negative thoughts take us to dead ends and leave us nowhere. One has to keep doing things and keep thinking of good things that happen in the day and block out the bad stuff.
Make a worry teapot and put your troubles in there and in the mean time keep living and not thinking about your troubles.
Make a journal and write down things you like and good things that happen.
The lists will build believe it or not.
If you think nothing good happened today….then be grateful that you are not homeless, be grateful that you have your arms and legs, be grateful that was no earthquake, tsunami, landslide etc where you are. Be thankful you have water to drink and are not stranded in a desert in blistering heat. Look at a couple of these disasters on youtube and be grateful. Breath and realise you are better off and be very, very grateful.
There a re a million trillion things to be grateful for — once your brain starts thinking, it can come up with hundreds of things.
A journal works to lift your spirits – you just have to do it.
Colourful pens also work.
The constant obsessing on how bad ones life is – only makes us – our own worst enemies.
The constant negative thoughts are torture – we torture ourselves!! Thats bad.
We have to realise we, ourselves are torturing ourselves and how bad that is and we NEED to stop doing that.
The deeper the thought pattern the harder we have to try to break it.
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Depression is a illness, and every cold can be cured. There’s nothing wrong with you as a person; but everyone get’s sick. It’s up to YOU to take the medicine and get better, no one else!
Jemma, I appreciate your insights (this is, what, your third post today?)… The thing about depression is that it happens to anybody. I could be surrounded by the things and people that I like, hope for the future… and that one sliver of doubt creeps in. Then, in my perception at least, it becomes fear. Rationality, positivity, simply are not at the forefront then, and that’s the struggle… the unbearable pain. It’s difficult to take a good course of action right then. It’s bad.
However, to reirerate generally, everyone that ends up typing in this site wants their problems solved, period. I say the fact that anyone bothers to type knows they really would rather enjoy things like “life”. Right now, Im having a problem getting to the point because I havent mastered being the opposire of long-winded. If I didnt see the humor in what I just typed, Id take myself out of my embarrassment… But I wont, because what we need are more suggestions on how to survive and enjoy the happiness each of us deserves. Maybe a list should be compiled and hotlinked on the site.
It took me years of putting up with myself and my misery to learn how to meditate, and roll with each excruciating hit… The sun shines and the rain falls on everyone. This is our pain, and it defines us, so the only thing I truly have to wonder is if the pain of fate is defeating me, or am I making it my destiny?
… Dammit, Jemma… You made me type.