Going Through It

Hi there – sorry that things seem difficult for you right now – but from what you’ve written you seem to be pretty smart and mature 🙂 it sounds like you are making smart decisions and avoiding the major pitfalls and difficulties in high school. most of what you have said, is what most people your age are experiencing at this age – obviously situations and circumstances differ from person to person – but for the most part every young person is dealing with similar issues and feelings.

I know what i’m saying will sound somewhat detached and clinical and even vague – but most teens are dealing with hormone and body changes that can effect how you feel at times – so that is having so effect and influence on your moods and feeling.

Almost everyone “hate’s their mom” at this age – when she does things that anger you, try to step back and ask “is this really fair and just from HER point of view?” in other words, put yourself in her shoes and analyse it as if you were a mother – that might add some perspective and understanding in her actions and motives. Around here, you’ll read some real horror stories of parents who abuse their kids in many ways – it doesn’t sound like your mom is one of those types (i’m assuming, i could be wrong) – so be thankful she is relatively normal and caring, – if that is so, then she is doing most things out of love and concern … trust me, all parents want their kids to stay young and innocent for as long as possible – they also what them to reach their full potential. But parent often forget that what we, as parents have learned and adjusted to over a decade or more of adulthood – is all brand new for teenagers

Keep trying – you actually sound like you’re doing great despite how it may “feel” at the moment – i know it’s hard, but don’t be in a hurry for “love” – hold on to your heart – guard it – again, you’re just learning how it works, boys are no different, if they aren’t sure how to handle their heart – what makes you think they’ll know what to do with yours if you give it to them completely.

Date, have fun, get to know people, learn what their values are – but always be wary of your surroundings and how your actions will “appear to others who might be watching – getting seen getting kissed passionately in a secluded corner quickly becomes some outlandish lie in the rumor mill – those rumors can often be started by the very boy you kissed who is trying to “prove” his manliness to all his friends – he may have a “reputation” “uphold” and won’t be concerned with your reputation.

Keep making good decisions – you are staying away from drugs/alcohol (i think) – this is good – they tend to cause more problems than they ever solve so matter how they make you feel at the moment of usage.

See if the school has a counselor that you can talk to about your stress and workload.

Hang in there – you CAN do this … and the answer to you question “Why am i here?” – the answer is “why not?” 😉

old dawg