Sometimes I’ll see someone post here and hardly type but a few words. I’ve wondered why. This morning, I think I get it…
Sometimes there are too many words to describe the pain they feel. Too much in their head to convey in words. Maybe they do say a lot but it’s inside them as they type but a few words. Or, maybe those few words carry a heaviness that we don’t realize.
So, when I type:
I feel so sad.
I hope you know it means more than you know.
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I see what you’re saying. It could also be that they want support but don’t want to get into everything that’s bothering them… or, perhaps, they’ve noticed that the shorter posts get more responses? People can’t be arsed to read the longer ones sometimes.
…of all the new posts I was catching up on, I only commented on yours. Not sure why.
I’m sorry that you feel sad, and the enormity of the pain behind that one little word…*hugs*
Maybe. I guess I find your words ‘they want support’ strange and unknown to me. Like, I don’t understand that. Inside of me… it doesn’t click. Because I’m trying to understand that – why I come here and post? I didn’t used to so much but I guess when people stopped listening, when they said no more. When. They. Stopped. So, here, at least, I don’t think I want support or responses as much as I just want to be heard.
My words wil be here. Even when I’m no longer.
Thanks for the hug anyway.
I prefer the short ones. I don’t have to waste my valuable time reading the whole thing before I comment.
I agree. Sometimes it’s hard to just put into words how you’re feeling. And you just don’t have the energy to type a long message.
The fewest possible words phenomenon occurs in at least a few scenarios.
I think “too much to say” is a large part of that, but also “i know you’re not listening, so why try?” There’s also some “even if you are listening, you won’t understand… and even if you do understand, it won’t matter.”
So yes, “i feel so sad.” to me, obviously means much more.
Kinda like when someone says “i love you” instead of anything else, and means it.
Kinda like when someone says “i hate you” but really means “i care deeply for you, but i can’t believe you’ve caused me so much anguish, seemingly intentionally.”
Kinda like when someone says “i can’t believe this…” but really means “i obviously believe this is real, but it’s completely not what i thought or hoped or expected…”
Or, one of my favorites: “i just can’t.”
There’s about a million words behind that one, but what i often wish to express, far exceeds the attention span and/or willingness to listen, of anyone i’ve ever met.
Several times, i’ve responded to “i just can’t,” with “you just won’t.”
Because i was willing to listen, and try my best to understand, even if it took a million words and lots of fighting, for “us” to figure out what to do.
Unfortunately, my response (“you just won’t) was accurate… but i’m not sure whether “can’t” or “won’t” was the symptom, or the source.
If you won’t try, you become unable.
If you can’t try, do you become unwilling?
At some point, i realized the most important reason i write, is so *I* can understand.
You have to go Through, not around.
Some can’t because they won’t.
Some just can’t.