I don’t know what to do any more. Everything I try to do fails, my friends are all starting to give up on me and I don’t fit in with my family, they keep on making my life a living hell and I know that I can’t keep on going on like this.
Every day I think about just ending it all, it would be so much easier. I find my self lying awake at night unable to sleep and imagining how much better off everyone would be if I wasn’t here any more.
I want to get some help, but I’m so scared to go and see someone. I don’t know what I’d say to them and if I can tell them that I have been cutting and know that they won’t tell my parents, I’m nearly 18 would they have to tell them?
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I really don’t know, but if you’re still a minor then probably yes they’d be required to get your parents involved in anything that seem a risk of harm to yourself or others.
But I mean, do you really want to keep hurting yourself? I’ve been trying to get professional help for 18 months. It works better for some than others. My life seems like a huge tangled ball of yarn so they helped to find some loose ends to tug at, that I could maybe slowly pull the mess apart.
No they won’t tell your parents unless they thought you were a massive risk to yourself, but they can’t say anything without consent only guidence really. But if I’m honest maybe it would be good if they did know purely just so they understood how much your life is being affected by all this, keeping it all to yourself makes you worse I promise that’s how I ended up in hospital because I had nobody to talk to and I felt like a monster. The first step is understanding you need help no matter how small or big you think your problems are you are still entitled to a happy life and you deserve it. I promise things will get better, it’s took me so long to actually go and get help for myself and stick with it and I have this time and they are going to help me and finally I think I’m ready, it’s a horrible thing to be stuck with but it can be helped and you can be saved x x x
I don’t want to keep hurting myself, but I don’t seem to be able to stop. And I can’t have my parents know, they’re one of the reasons why i’m like this now.
If you go to the doctors tell them how you feel but say you don’t have any intention of killing yourself then they would not be allowed to tell your parents, I did it when I was younger and they can’t say anything you tell them unless your life is in serious danger. It would be a breech of confidentiality. Or even ring up nhs helpline and they can help you with advice x
All due respect “they can’t say anything” simply does not apply to minors.
They can say anything, especially if the minor starts talking about harming themself or others. Even ideation (thinking/planning) will typically be reported.
Well actually. When I was 17 and I went to the doctors confidentially I asked them if try would tell my parents and they can’t.. If she/he said they had suicidal thoughts or have made plans then they could have got their parents involved, but not without even telling her/him beforehand and that it jn their best interest. I’ve been through it myself and already asked all the questions
so will they tell them or not?
That’s one example, that you’re generalizing for the rest of the world.
Short answer – ask your own therapist / counselor.
As you can see I mentioned NHS which obviously I meant for the uk
Welp okay there you have it, straight from Professor Wearentlivingbutexisting: just tell them everything because hey why not?
Is this my future self speaking? Me and you are in the exact same situation…I’m sorry to hear about everything and I know how it feels. Literally. 🙁
Ah I gotta say it really helps knowing that I’m not the only one with this problem, you ever wanna talk you know where I am.
It depends. As a minor, you’re legally not considered competent to make your own decisions (I realize it sucks, I’m not saying that I like the law…but it is the law). Legally speaking, if you are deemed to be “not emancipated”, then yeah, your parents can find out what you’ve been talking about with your therapist. Most practices have some structural policies in place that limit this to cases where the patient is actively contemplating suicide or homicide (colloquially “is a threat to themself or others”), but it is technically possible, and moreover, given the fact you’re on here, probable. If you can bear it, wait until you are 18. The magic of doctor patient confidentiality really kicks in there. In the meantime feel free to message me: twistedpersonas93@gmail.com (I literally came up with this 20 minutes ago…don’t judge lol). You can do it! Hang in there. (^.^)
you’ve genuninely really helped me out there. Is that the same in Uk and America? Ye I can try and wait till I’m 18 just over 2 months to go, one day at a time right?