In high school I would rarely if ever challenge mistaken or erroneous assumptions or allegations of authority figures, feeling timid toward the discomfort of conflict. I had recorded and would hold onto relatively trivial incidents that should have been forgotten the following day. My youth, and later, young adulthood, were spent with intense frustration characterized by potential unable to be developed, holding increasing resentment and bitterness to past wrongs that went unresolved. Lesson: Learn from misfortune, failures, and injustices. Don’t dwell on them, try to see the positive, try to learn something, see how to handle similar situations in the future, and move on. Much of life is dependent on external factors beyond one’s control. Success in life seems to be determined by how skillfully one is at putting up with uncomfortable things and small injustices, choosing one’s battles, navigating options, associating with groups, managing variables in securing income and engaging in relationships, and adapting to the introduction of new information, knowledge, and changes in conditions.
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Good day to you sir. Good to see you’re still around.
I’m not sure whether it’s the density or the potency of your content, or the combination thereof, that i find so impressive…
But i just can’t resist the urge to say:
“Everyone, listen to this guy.”
Hey Buddy,
Yeah, holding off on being authentic until I start a career would just be continuing to live in an unconscious stupor. Principled Earth, or whatever it is or becomes, has to be my priority. This video contributed to reaffirm my resolve: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYIySjzKLMY
Basically, you won’t be happy until you express your true self. There will never be an ideal time for this to happen, but it is necessary for development (personal or otherwise).
Thanks man!
“Basically, you won’t be happy until you express your true self. There will never be an ideal time for this to happen, but it is necessary for development (personal or otherwise).”
AKA: “be yourself, or die trying.”
Despite the fact that i want to artificially defeat this requirement of self, for my own benefit… i can’t help but agree with it. It couldn’t be more boldly truthful.
“Now” (while we can, immediately, no more wasted time) is as “ideal” a time as any of us will ever have, to express and actualize our true selves. Anything not aligned with the true self, will almost certainly cause perpetual discomfort, or worse, extreme misery, agony, despair, and ultimately self-destruction.
“Going with the flow,” “going along to get along,” are interesting principles… and though the late, great Bruce Lee has told us “be water, my friend…”
Sometimes you have to be the mountain. You have to claim your identity, and say: “this is me. I am this. I am mine, and i will face my future and my fate, as myself… and no one else.”
Plus, with everything else going on in the world… who really has any extra energy or focus, to be anyone but themselves? It’s more efficient, more honest, more fulfilling… less requiring of “masks” and facades… more transparent, and allows the sources of problems to be more readily accessible, so that they may be solved as quickly and effectively as possible, if any acceptable solutions exist.
Also wanted to add:
Accept that people will judge, based on whatever criteria they choose or have been taught, and that they will often be wrong.
Allow them to judge. Watching the way someone judges you (and others), reveals quite a lot about who they are.
I think we should not need approval from anyone who practices poor judgement, and does not indicate the appreciation and capacity for good judgement.
Many people find themselves at the mercy of those with poor or inappropriate judgement, and invalidly formed opinions. Many of “the world’s problems” occur in these situations. No one wants to be subjected to compulsory injustice or unfairness… and yet, this happens frequently, all over the world.
Perhaps people with the power to control others, are more likely to form unfair judgements. Perhaps… those are the only types of people who ever really “want” to control others.
I think it would be nice to be able to control others, but i have only arrived at that conclusion due to being controlled unfairly, by others. I would rather everyone just control themselves, and everyone “be cool” and avoid causing problems.
Amen, brother.
Yes, I think I’ve prepared myself to receive mostly negative feedback, but hopefully it can be a learning experience for all involved.
You should put up a blog yourself. Your quite the lyrical gangster, as it were. For realz.
Peace